mayona
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"Sex", "plain" or "initimate" or "best level of love making" are total pleasure. But if you add loving your partner to the equation, rather than just satisfying your burning desire, then sex can be turned into “making love”. Now every one will say, “I know, I know”, that sounds clichéd. There is truth in that statement though. There have been times when I am not in the mood to get down and sex does not mean the same to me as the times that I am absolutely in that moment. Let’s break it down. Here are some differences between sex and actual physical intimacy (making love):
Transparency with your partner should be practiced in every aspect of your relationship. Being open and honest about everything allows both you and your partner to know each other in a more deep way. This will allow you both to be completely comfortable with one another.
Having transparency should transfer over into your sex life as well. There is an unparalleled occurrence when both the people in a marriage can openly share anything to each other, including what they enjoy and what they do not enjoy in bed. Not to mention a talk on better pleasurable sex should also be openly discussed.
My partner and I can always see a difference when we connect deeply while making love. There have been times when it feels as though we are worlds apart yet sitting right next to each other or, sometimes, actually having “just sex”. In those moments, more times than not, I realize that we have not really made love in a while and feel the need to make that real emotional connection. After we come together and meet each other in that space, we both feel like we are on the same page again.
During ou talks I found that my partner feels the most loved when I desire him. I have also realized I feel better connected to him when we are actively physically intimate on a weekly basis. This has helped both me and my partner to intentionally make physical intimacy a priority. But not just quickies. I’m talking about real, selfless love making.
It seems that when my partner and I just have “sex”, it is usually because I am not in the mood and he is. OR vice versa. When that happens, there is no real emotional connection going on, just the desire to get off.
In that moment one shouldn’t be selfish and do bother for the readiness of the partner. Neither of us care enough in that moment about the other person not wanting to have sex. It is all about what he wants or all about what I want depending on who is in the mood. This type of sex, while immediately physically gratifying, tends to leave one or both of us feeling like being used by the other for one’s own selfish pleasure.
We are all humans. So naturally, there are times (sometimes more frequently than others) that we feel the need to be satisfied. While this desire can be wonderful, it can also foster selfishness in the love bond when it is consistently about one partner’s needs.
This brings us back to the whole selfish desire concept.
When an intimate couple is not “making love” they are usually just having sex which means that one may not feel the passion at times.
The sad truth about failing to make love with your partner is that there is less opportunity to truly connect. Sure, you can be the best of friends, but without the deeper connection that unify a man and woman, you are just glorified roommates.
Just getting by with quickies or “hurry up and let’s get this over with” type of encounters will hinder your connection and your relationship.
Sex was created to be fun, enjoyable and to connect a man and woman. If you or your partner are having a hard time making love instead of just having sex, try to create an environment in which both emotional and physical needs are flourishing. It takes time and practice but it is well worth it in the end.
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Yes. sex connects and love making cements the bond of relationship.
LZ-PT
Wives n whores cant be compared....no way.
Carol
Yes. Love making is better but sometimes I just need to have plain uncomplicated sex without any strings.
MCM
Yes it’s better ,but good sex is really ****** awesome too