I always assume nobody likes me?

A little about me . I grew up always associating with a small group. Always had a few friends and our relationships last for ever. So I have no issue with keeping relationships. I just noticed now that I'm older I just realized that I always think nobody wants to associate with me especially woman. What made me realize this is I was dating this woman and she actually liked me. I was astonished and thought it was very strange that someone especially a female liked me. She told me it seems like I think that nobody likes me. Deep down that hit me real hard because I realized it was true and couldn't figure out how she knew. I also noticed I dont even bother even talking to anyone and give short responses. I dont have any social anxiety anymore like I used to as a teen and I can hold conversations its just how I am. What would be a reason why I have this mentality???

Kherova2019-02-26T23:05:05Z

Often you develop an opinion like that early in life. It can be from multiple sources, and events that happen in your life that confirm that belief about yourself, reinforce that view. Often events that would contradict that belief get dismissed by your brain. The ego likes control, and it likes a consistent view of self (even a negative one). Tara Brach might say that you believe in a small sense of self (because who you are really, is not just one thing).

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Anonymous2019-02-26T21:21:19Z

perhaps any childhood abuse (verbal, physical, environmental) that make you feel like you were unimportant, less, or unworthy in any way. or maybe it is a mental disorder, like anxiety. there's lots of different kinds of anxiety and depression, maybe it's different from the kind you had as a teen. maybe depression is giving you an inferiority complex. maybe you're just insecure, or maybe you don't like yourself so you assume others don't. either way, i think this is a little bit common and you're not alone. my sister and i have both struggled with this. i think practicing self love and improvement as well as positivity and kindness will help the most :~)) hope this helps a little

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Anonymous2019-02-26T21:19:37Z

Perhaps lack of self-esteem. You got to believe in yourself and remember we're all in this together, one little blue planet spinning around as a speck in the universe.

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