Ok, please help me understand why there is a big thing about gay guys only being tops or only being bottoms?

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So i have answered many questions from others about anal sex! Mostly guys asking if they are gay because they want to try receiving anal or about how to have anal sex for the first time! For the record I am straight but really enjoy receiving anal stimulation and penetration from my girlfriend and I enjoy giving her anal too! But on here i always see tons of gay guys saying that they are only tops or only bottoms! Yes i get that someone might have a personal preference and i also understand that this is not true of all gay couples, but why does it seem to be such a common theme in the male gay community? Am i missing something? Is there more to it that i don't understand?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well - many guys are versatile. Many people might say they are a versatile bottom - meaning they might top once in a while - vs a total bottom who never tops. 
But mainly your question has to do with being sure that we get what we want. If I am a bottom and I want to hook up - I want to prequalify someone and be sure that I’m not going home with another bottom. 
You say you are straight and like an.al play - but at least if she turns out to flake out on that you can still hu.mp her. 
But if a top ends up with a top and neither wants to bottom for the other - its just a big waist of time. 
Some people are versatile and do what ever. Others are pretty specific.

Anonymous · Answer

Like you said it's preference. It's not actually that big of a thing though. I'd say most gay men top and bottom.

Ok, please help me understand why there is a big thing about gay guys only being tops or only being bottoms?

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