Getting over betrayal, depression, unhappiness?

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Ever since April 5th, my boyfriend, of 1 year that we are both very serious about betrayed me. Ever since then all I feel is sadness. I am a christian and he is my first. I gave him all my time, effort, money, everything because I felt he was the one. I am currently with him. Today is our one year anniversary but I just feel so broken. As hard as I pray as much as he says sorry as much as i try ANYTHING i cant get past this feeling of such depression. I feel worthless, empty, lonely, I feel the world is not what I used to believe it was. Its all fake, my whole world crashed. I believed he was loyal I believed he wanted only me, but he went against that and I caught him. So, What do I do? How do I stop feeling the world is just all about people finding their own self pleasures? How do I stop feeling like nothing is special or valuable. I dont love him anymore, but I cant let go because of all the memories, him being my first, taking my virginity, making me love life, but now that he betrayed me and showed me the real him he is not what I fell in love with. What do I do?

Lex · Answer

there is a part of you that still loves him because you're holding onto him. you have to let go and say fk him because he's toxic and you don't need him in your life. he is ONE PERSON in comparison to what? 8 billion?

i'm just gonna be straight with ya, he betrayed you and there is no getting past that. there is no pure forgiveness like people try to believe in, because once trust is broken it can never fully be repaired.

if someone doesn't stay loyal to you, then they don't love you. you need to love yourself right now and work on yourself because good things are coming your way. you have to accept that today you might be depressed, but tomorrow you might truly meet the man that you will marry.

you have to let go of the memories and such, because are they REALLY worth anything? again, he didn't love you enough to stay loyal so what are memories of him actually worth?

i know how you feel. i went through the same thing and same feelings about 3 years ago. even though i'm different now, much less naive, i've learned a lot and i'm better able to see through people.

Ricky · Answer

Dang romantic story. I'm sorry for your loss. Well if you believe in religion than god will slowly heal you. You will heal with time but you have to be strong. some humans are unfair but you get to grow stronger. Your a women. you hold the power to the dating world. You will find your true soulmate soon

? · Answer

I've been there. The first girl I ever loved cheated on me with my best friend. I caught them at it. My heart sank too.

I went on to meet someone who was awesome, and still is. Thing is, if it wasn't for that experience I never would have met her. 
The point I'm trying to make is, you NEVER know what is waiting for you around the corner.

If I were you? I would be thankful for the good times I had, but treat what happened as a sign that it is time to move on. No need to be nasty to him, he had a choice to make in life as we all do. He chose his, now I believe you should make yours.

There is a whole new world for you out there. Go and experience it!

Getting over betrayal, depression, unhappiness?

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