Do you ever wish you had made better friends in school?
I'm 26 for reference.
I made good friends in college, but we live apart so it's hard to see each other.
I'm closer to some of my high school friends, but honestly their just aquintances now. They aren't maturing and I don't like some of the people they bring around. I know this ride but when I was younger I tended to attract quirky friends, but as adults it isn't OK anymore. They don't act like adults, and I've also started to realize some of them aren't great people. Like they judge people for doing stuff, but do bad stuff themselves. I enjoyed their friendship as kids, but we all became friends out of circumstance.
Telling It Like It Is2019-09-18T14:01:01Z
No. I'm almost 40 years old and by this point in MY life, school was just a place to get my education and meet people on the same journey - if we got along, that was great. By now, I'm not friends with anyone I went to school with. I DO wish I'd made better friends in the JOBS I've had over the years - those were the most vital years of my professional life and I wish I'd formed more friendships in the industries I'd worked in in my 20s and 30s, but I chose not to connect with a lot of people. You grow out of friendships unless you have a true and tight bond with those you grew up with and went to school with. In 10 years from now you won't care who made friends with in school because you'll have met so many other people you want to connect with, those friendships will seem menial.
You cannot change the past but you can live in the future. Keeping busy really does work cos your mind is occupied and you feel better for doing things.
Certainly. I hung out with some people who treated me like the punching bag of the group. Not literally because I was pretty big, but more in a mocking way. The sad thing was is that I had many opportunities to make other, better friends, but I ignored those chances because I felt awkward.
But that's all in hindsight. Now I wouldn't know any of my high school classmates even if I met them at a reunion.
Honestly it sounds like you’re holding onto the past for the sake of holding onto it. You can make new friends after school. I did and I’m better for it. My best friends in life didn’t really come around until years after college.