Isn't part of being a partner keeping your ego in check, so you can keep your job and be a stable provider?
I was attracted to my girlfriend in part, because she was a single mother and knew the hardship of being the provider for her family, however after we got married she lost her job because of her own attitude toward her boss. Now she is angry with me, because I can't just absorb her bills, because I still have my own obligations from before we married. Why do responsible stable girlfriends turn into such irresponsible wives?
Andrew Smith2019-10-02T22:00:52Z
Sometimes you have to do what is right even if it is difficult. I can't know her boss but many bosses can be wrong.
(Look up Harvey Weinstein for example ).
A good boss can listen to other opinions. A bad boss doesn't. The business suffers and the workers suffer too. Not to mention the customers, and the shareholders.
Total abject subservience went out with the abolition of the "servant" class. It was SUPPOSED to have been eliminated from the USA with the end of slavery. But we all know that never happened. Economic slavery has replaced physical slavery. Big deal.
Now to the REAL issue. She might have been hoping for a prince to rescue her from being a single mother working and supporting her children so she is disappointed and takes it out on you.
YOU might be critical of her for losing her job and she is fighting back at what she sees as unreasonable interference.
Perhaps she is just under stress trying to balance the books and snaps at anything and anyone.
A range of possibilities but your question certainly shows a lack of support and empathy for your partner.
"SHE should..........." I really suggest a reset on your own thinking to see if you can calm the situation.
As a single mother I think she should have tried to see if you could even be a provider. If not then let you go. She should and if she’s use to being independent will find work again and surely support you if needed. She already has a family and if you can’t hang do her and the child a favor and be honest so she can find the man she needs and deserves. Not a boy who soon as she needs you runs to the internet and state how you cant financially support her instead of telling her. I feel bad for her that she wasted her time on you.
You just need to tell her she has to go find another job. The expectation to not work simply isn't reasonable unless you're marrying someone with extreme wealth (and take no pride in earning your own anyway).
Do you file a joint tax return? If you are like almost all married couples in the USA, you do... A joint tax return is about "our" money.... not my share or your share.
The "household" has all the bills... and the "household" needs to figure out how to pay them. You aren't single, so don't act like it.