Can I have some advice, please?

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I am a 27 year old guy and met this girl who is 24. She is so mature and intelligent. She is a special education teacher and genuinely cares about people. The thing is, she admits she has had a wild past. She grew up going to a Christian school and was raised in a really religious environment. She said once she got to college, she was ready to let her hair down and be a “bad *****.” She was ashamed in telling me she had her clitoris and nipples pierced through college, but says those days are long, long past her. She does have some tattoos, and loves her half sleeve tattoo, but always wears long sleeve shirts because she wants to be seen as classy and not have people judge her.  What do you think about this girl? Do you think her past is in the past?

CrustyCurmudgeon · Answer

My wife and I celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary in March. I have never asked about her sex life before we met and fell in love, nor has she asked about mine. She does know that I have been married previously and had a son and daughter. The point of this, is that when two people fall in love and pledge the rest of their lives to each other. the past should remain in the past, and not be part of your relationship. It gives me great peace, primarily because I'm not proud of my past life.

Anonymous · Answer

I knew lots of people who had a wild child phase in college but after they graduated they grew up, matured, and got their lives on track for the future. If she says those wild days are in the past, all you can do is trust that she's telling the truth unless she does something to suggest otherwise.

Mark IX · Answer

She's 24, exactly how far in her past can her past be.  Look little girl, you're 27, try going out with her and see how it goes.  If you don't like her you can do what billions of others have done and find someone else.  It's only through trying that we succeed.  Meanwhile, stop asking random strangers for dating advice, it's childish.

Can I have some advice, please?

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