For example if I see a pretty girl at the grocery store or at Target how do I ask her out or approach her should i even attempt too? I am in my mid 20's and i always see pretty girls in public but never approach them of course if they turned my down i would just go on my day and not persist.
Baelor
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Please, for the love of God, just don’t be a pig. Too many guys think that the more forward they are with their comments the better. This is not true for most of us girls.
Just be casual about it. If you’re shopping in the same aisle as them, start a basic conversation, and maybe say something along the lines of “you’re very pretty, by the way,” before you guys part.
Most girls aren’t going to Target to get wifed up, anyway, and are just trying to get in and get out. But a comment like that can flatter them, and who knows, they might make the next move.
If it’s a different place in public, like a club, cafe, restaurant, etc. where there’s actually a social atmosphere, you’re chances will be better. Here, you can sit down or near her and start a conversation—and have a chance of it escalating. Or see what drink or food she’s ordered and maybe order her another, and have it sent to her by the waiter. This happened to me once, and I thought it was sweet.
Ricky
sorry man but 99% percent of women who get approached by strangers in public will never work. you will end up getting rejected. She might give you the number but she will flake on you because she doesn't want to reject you harshly. the guys who do get numbers will have a 95% flake rate. if you dont believe it go give it a try and you will see what im talking about. but to answer your questions man, yes go approach, dont use any compliments and try and stay in the conversations for at least 20 minutes and than get them on a quick date like take them to the nearest coffee shop in target or where ever you are. usually target has coffee shops. the reason why you should do this is because she needs to get to know you. most girls will not go out with you if you dont get to know them. she needs to know who you are. thats what they get attracted to. thats why most phone numbers flake because u only talked to them for like 5 minutes and you walked away. it doesnt work that way with girls. obviously while you are spending time with her and talking to her at the moment of approaching tease her in times so she can be interested in you. girls get hooked especially if your teasing them. If you spend time with her at least an hour max talking to her than the number is solid and you will have another date in that same day or the next day. only a small percent of guys actually do get success. but its very hard. I mean you wont get good with the first girl you talk to. you will get good when you spam approach and get all the experience.
Anonymous
Don't, just don't. If she makes it obvious she's interested in you, maybe but she's not going to likely appreciate being cold approached by guys.