Am I acting irrationally when I’m saying I’m not ready for marriage?
I’m a girl, born in 1996. In my culture, there is no “dating” there is just this thing when a guy is interested in a girl he lets her & her parents know that and tell them that he’s serious and would like to get to know her better then get engaged then married. And this is what happened with me. My mom’s friend’s
son told my parents that he’s interested at the beginning of this year, when we were both about to graduate. I told my parents that I think he’s okay, but I’m in no way ready to get married soon, and that maybe next year we could start the “getting to know each other and getting engaged” phase then the year after we get married.
My mom’s friend was like, she’s already 23 ( this was in early 2020, now I’m 24) and I’m shocked?? It’s not like I’m 30! And even if I was, it’s my choice! both him and I just turned 24 and we both just got our average-paying jobs, if he was older and wiser and more stable financially I’d have considered it. But we’re both young, and I REALLY don’t feel ready. He didn’t say much, but I know that he’s very interested in getting married sooner than later (which I used to think is childish and hasty) But almost everyone around me says I’m being childish. I feel so sick and guilty and I just hate me for being like this, I used to think I’m right and I NEVER thought I would consider getting married before feeling ready. Now I just feel like doing whatever everyone is asking me to do. Maybe they know better.