Girl said this to me after 1st Date. What does it mean? “No spark”?

“I had a good time too!! You seem super cool! You’re super intelligent and were very fun to talk to! I’m going to be honest though, I didn’t really feel that spark you know? I don’t wanna lead you on so I’d rather be up front, I’m sorry! Wish you all the best though!!! Thanks again for a great night!”

We actually talked nonstop and I surely felt some spark for a first date. 

Did she simply hated how I looked or there was genuinely no spark for her? 

2020-11-22T13:59:12Z

We obviously parted ways and there won’t be a second date, which is fine. Just wanted to get some insight. 

Merry2020-11-22T14:14:29Z

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For her the chemistry just wasn't there. 
Yes - she enjoyed the evening, the conversation and stated that you seem "cool" and "smart" but you just weren't her type & she didn't see things between the two of you going anywhere. 
Fair or unfair she clearly has her criteria & is clear about what she is looking for and what warrants a second date. 
You clearly had an enjoyable evening, for most girls I know, that would at least warrant a second date to see if the spark is there or not. 
I wouldn't take this to heart - judgement that is so black and white is not a great quality in a potential partner. Her loss! 

?2020-11-23T01:21:44Z

I'm so sorry you had to dealt with a girl that didn't have a sexual connection with you. Tbh, Idk why I had a spark with my 2nd ex bf when we was hanging out, alone together? He already moved on. He has a son that is 2 years old now.😯

Anonymous2020-11-22T23:38:35Z

According to Michelle's Method TM, she is not interested and without any chemistry, there is no reason for continuing. I always advise women to drop men they do not go for as there is no potential. Believe me, it is best for both of you. What is platonic cannot be sexual. 

?2020-11-22T20:59:00Z

Lack of chemistry between the two of you.Some people need to feel/sense the chemistry.They might have felt that during the time the two of you spent together there lacked some chemistry,lack of compatibility,etc.Just move on and find someone else.

Orla C2020-11-22T17:14:21Z

She's young and immature. Just be nice to her about it, and wish her the best, and move on yourself. 

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