We’ve been talking online *only* as long distance, have not met in person. I’m 23- Irish, he’s 22- Moroccan. He became very into me, complimenting me endlessly, told me I was his soulmate, we talked non-stop for hours sometimes, I was waking up to good morning messages & got goodnight texts also. He had his moods also though but blamed it on drugs. He told me that he was falling for me, I was developing feelings also but he was rushing things & getting so intense so I blocked him but did let him down first. He then created 2 fake accounts to try to get me back and messaged my sister (who he also does not know) but she blocked him as she was freaked out. I unblocked him to explain my reasoning and he was really upset but he said that talking to me turns him on. I re-blocked him and he created another fake account but I just blocked again. Opinions?
Ogres are like Onions2021-03-22T11:30:41Z
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Only my lonely opinion: online “relationships” are not real. They are calculated responses, manipulated self-promotion, filtered through the internet. And they are based on fantasy, not organic, authentic life.
And even if you don’t believe any of that, the behaviors of this person are waving red flags all day. Drugs, incessant compliments (insecure manipulative behavior), creating fake accounts (result of obsessive compulsions), and disrespectful behavior towards you and your sister (not respecting boundaries) should cause you to completely remove this person from your life permanently.
This is the same thing I would say to a friend or a sister. Best wishes for you.
Anyone who comes out of the gate that hot is bad news. They're either emotionally unwell and truly think they feel these deep things about someone they don't even know... Or they're up to something else. Healthy people looking for real relationships take their time and get to know you as well as they can remotely before starting to express romantic feelings. But in this case the drugs and the fake accounts should tell you everything you need to know. Keep him blocked.
I think that he does sound genuine. The fact that he has gone to such extremes suggests that he really likes you. I think that if he was a player then he would have moved on by now. Obviously, this guy has his issues but you have to remember that no one if perfect. The most important thing is that you share an emotional connection together. If you have that then you both can overcoming anything, including working on slowing thigs down. Problems such as these can be easily fixed. I would consider giving him a chance because you do not know when you meet someone who you like this much.