I can't even talk to the girls, when I know they clearly show a sign of interest. But I can't because I'm so afraid I will get stuck with words to come up with and not able to sustain a conversation. I guess I am socially awkward. Is this a disorder? Or can this be cured?
T J
Get off the damn social media , go out and find a friend or so. so you can learn to speak face to face. Social media has mad this whole generation unable to even talk to each other face to face.
Antony
There is nothing to be ‘cured’ you are 100% normal - all boys/men go through this at some stage - some go through it quicker than others - others take years to go through it but are actually a bigger hit with the ladies than the guys who got through it long before them.
What you are suffering from is a lack of confidence, and is all about building it up - throw yourself into as many situations that are out of your comfort zone as possible and you will get there - my best advice is once you have the confidence to be yourself, be true to your actual opinions and enjoy your life doing what you want to do.
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It is something that you have to work on every day. You are being too hard on yourself. The goal is to become so strong as a person that you're not afraid of what people with think if you are unable to come up with words to say.
When you have the opportunity to talk to a strong woman, just say “hi” when you see her. Be pleasant and if you have a chance to have a conversation, get her talking about herself by asking her an open ended (one that can't be answered yes or no) question like, “what do you like to do in your spare time?” Share something related to what she said and then ask her another open ended question. The weather is always a safe subject to talk about.
Could you possibly be making dating choices mainly based upon whether someone likes you and you like them? Unfortunately this approach to dating, used by most people, usually leads to a broken heart.
May I suggest that the first question to ask yourself when considering whether or not to date someone is, “Is this person a strong person?” If they’re not, no matter how much you like them, how much they like you, or how “cute” or “hot” they are, - please don’t date them. A strong person has good character (honesty, integrity, trustworthiness), displays a positive attitude (cheerful, caring, friendly, forgiving, helpful, and respectful), fulfills their responsibilities (for handling people who are pains in a positive way, for always trying to make a good choice, for taking care of themselves, for serving others), gives their best effort, and demonstrates self-control (of their body, anger, mouth and money).
My suggestion is that you put in the effort necessary to become a strong person (if you’re not already), forget about this girl unless she’s a strong person, and eventually look for this type of girl (otherwise you’re setting yourself up for a broken heart). Unfortunately this type of woman is difficult to find - but save yourself the heartache and don’t settle for less.
(Please remember that you eventually want a 50 or 60 year marriage - not a 5 or 10 year marriage.)
Hope this helps!
PS Strong men attract strong women like magnets (as well as weak women - so be careful). The best way to get to know a strong woman without dating is to participate in the activities of a community service or a school organization.
Leesabrat
Join Toastmasters.
jimanddottaylor
Watch early episodes of 'The Big Bang Theory'. Watch Raj cope