Should she be upset on me?

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My bestfriend worked in Iraq,he then decided to extend for a few days,he said his decision would be better for us but then i am very hesitant to accept his decisions coz i don't want to ever risk even a single day.I can't do anything but cry.He keeps on explaining to me that I just have to understand,then after he said sorry to me that he should have listened to me and realized that we should have then made the decisions together.Something bad happened to him in an accident.Me and him used to saved all our conversations then his sis read the part on which we were talking about this topic.Now she gets upset,maybe thinking that if not for me,his bro's decisions would have not been changed..But she doesn't know the details,merely relying on the conversations she had read.Now I feel lost.I am not the type who is so strong and can handle situations like people confrontations. But then i just get bothered the way his sis thinks of me.

Elisa-chan · Accepted Answer

Well, his sister shouldn't have read any of those conversations in the first place. It's a total invasion of privacy. When somebody does something like that to you, you have to stick up for yourself.

If you can't do it face to face, try writing an e-mail that explains everything you want to say. You may want to include that it's none of her business, therefore she has no right to say anything. She doesn't have the whole story and therefore, again, she has no right to jump to conclusions and be angry. She disrespected you.

You can explain the situation, or you can keep it to yourself, because it is private, afterall.

Lastly, don't care about what she thinks. You're not friends with her, you are friends with her brother. And afterall, she wasn't treating you very friendly. It doesn't matter what she thinks, because she has nothing to do with it and it is your personal business.

Anonymous · Answer

First you need to talk to your bestfriend(boyfriend?) and tell him that any decisions regarding him/you need to be decided together - especially something as important as him staying in a dangerous country. As for his sister, try talking to her and seeing how she feels.  If she feels upset at you then tell her the whole story about how her bro made the decision on his own without talking to you about it.  
No matter what communication is the issue here - you need to have open communication with your bestfriend and with his sister.

Mehbooba · Answer

Any thing bad happened due to accident could have happened here also if we believe in fate but yes we should not go to a dangerous place.Mistake is mistake and again she should not invade your privacy--it is against Gods wish.You should not bother for any one unless and untill you think that you are guilty. So relaxed and face every thing with confidence.

mzstorm · Answer

She has to understand first and foremost that her brother is man enough to make his own decisions...secondly, she has absolutely no right to be angry with or judge you because she invaded YOUR privacy!!! If anything you should be upset with her! I understand that you do not want a confrontation, but just don't worry about her opinion or let her make you feel bad!!! You did NOTHING wrong!!!

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hotpink_dice · Answer

no u shouldnt be upset on urself u just dont want nothing 2 happen 2 him ur a worrywart thats all but hes doing this for u and our freedom so ill think u should atleast be a lil happy for him

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