my bf says he's not in love with me but still wants to be 2gether.what do i do?

No. The only changes you will see are things getting worse. You guys are on the wrong track and there is obviously an unequal distribution of power. So he doesn't love you but he wants to stay together until, what, something "better" comes along? This is what's known as "using" and you know it isn't right. You just may not be ready to do what you need to do. Him saying he doesn't love you has put you in the "one-down-position" and it looks like that was his goal, too. An honorable man would simply have broken things off without the unnecessary hurtful revelation. Lose his sorry *** as quickly as possible. I can tell from what you've written that you have too much class and depth for him.

That's along time to be with someone and not have any love for them. Are you sure that he isn't just saying that to get a reaction out of you?

Well if he doesn't love you why be with him?There is plenty of other fish in the sea.The real question is how could he not love you and yet still want to be with you?That's just crazy.I say you let him go.Why waste your love with him when he doesn't love you.

You can't ever go back to what was. If he don't love you, move on hunny, someone out there will. Life is way to short to long for someone to love you..... look around, bet you see someone who DOES love you and don't just want to be with you because that is what they are used to.

If he doesn't love you, then why does he want to be with you?

If the love in that relationship is no more, then have a talk with him, and it your not BOTH willing to try to make it better, then you might as well break it off.

The question is, Do you love your boyfriend? Don't continue to waste your time with a man that does'nt love you. Spend your time loving, not waiting to be loved.......

Chill out until you can see him as something other than a boyfriend. I don't know what he has to offer - but obviously he recognizes that you have a lot to offer in any form of relationship. You may go thru a spell of thinking of him as less than human in the meantime.

You can't have a real relationship if he doesn't love you.....you've been going out so long and he's just now telling you he doesn't love you .... maybe he's not "the one" ??

don't you'll only end up getting hurt worse.

stop trying to get feelings out of a dead horse. All you'll get is manure.