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How to get child from your bed to his?

Ok I ahve three children , I never let my first two sleep in the bed with me so this is new for me, I have a almost 3 year old boy ,who has sleept with me since birth( because he had serious health problems)now he has had all operations needed a a year and half ago and I can not get him to sleep a full night in his own bed, I lay down next to him in his bed untill he falls asleep, but in middle of night he wakes up screaming and back in my bed, now if he is sleeping in my bed he never wakes up in middle of night? I have tried favorite stuffed animal , and blanket even a reward but still does not work? Any help would be great thanks.

Update:

Before anyone else says how unfair to other children they are 12 and 14 and sugested that he sleep with me or them at night in case he stoped breathing or got sick , my two girls have always baby him and never jelous .

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  • 2 decades ago
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    Been there and tried everything that you did also. We eventually used sleeping in their bed as a means to an end. For example, we wrote down 5 activities my 3 year old liked and if she stayed in her bed for the night, she could pick one of the activities. We then began making it two nights for an activity and so on. Another thing that seems to help, is a bubble tank. They provide a "night light" and the noise from the tank soothes them.

  • 2 decades ago

    I had a similar problem with my son. He was 19 months before sleeping the night through in his own bed. At 3 years old, you have a lot of undoing to do as far as bad habits. His problem is is that he doesn't have the knowledge so relax himself back to sleep. You are going to have to help him along by NOT laying down with him when he goes to bed. Tell him what you are doing -- it is important that he knows exactly why. #1 thing is that 3 year old boy's do not sleep in mommy's bed and that it is time for him to be a big-boy and sleep in his bed. You'll get every excuse in the book. You need to be very firm on this. It will be very difficult. He may cry, but slowly he will learn to settle himself and start to drift off. It is important that he is tired the first few times that you do this, but don't change his routine. So no TV, quiet time prior, maybe a bath or such. Praise him when he does good. It is easier if he is screaming when you are awake. Just go in the other room or away so it won't hurt so much.

    I found the transition easier for my son when I moved him to a toddler bed. I know, now he can climb out, but for him it was a turning point.

    There is also a book called "How to Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems". Look it up. It is older but a great book for those who's child won't sleep alone.

    Good luck!

  • 2 decades ago

    If you ever find a solution this question please forward it on to me.... My gf has a 4 yr old that always comes into the bedroom around 11:30 pm and sleeps the rest of the night there. We have tried everything but like you as long as he's in our bed he will sleep but put him in his bed and boom he's up.

  • 2 decades ago

    That's really tough. A part from locking him in his room, and having to hear him scream until he falls asleep on his own, you can't really do much. At 3 years old, that may not be feasible.

  • 2 decades ago

    If you can, give him his own room and tell him as long as he stays there then it is his. Later when he is comfortable with it bring in his brother to sleep in the same room. Hope this helps.

    Source(s): experience
  • 2 decades ago

    You will have to keep putting him back in his bed. It will be the hardest month of your life; but it should work. He will keep getting up and crying and you will cry and be exhausted; but it should work. Consistancy is key here so don't give in.

  • 2 decades ago

    I have no idea

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