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CookieMonster007
CookieMonster007 asked in Family & RelationshipsFamily · 1 decade ago

I Want To Move Out of The House...?

I am 20-years old. I've recently withdrawn from music school and moved back home. I've applied and will be attending nursing school in the fall. I don't enjoy living on campus, but I don't enjoy living at home. I love my family, but I just need that fresh start. When I went to music school, I went for a semester, than came home for one. Then I went back again in the fall, and came home again in the spring. I haven't been out enough to really have rooted myself somewhere.

I'm not talking about being completely independent. I just need a change in my life...the problem is that the only place for me to go is to in with my boyfriend and his family...which is only 20 minutes from my house. So, I'll still be home a lot, but just "living" at his house.

Its hard to explain to my mother because she didn't go to college. Now I'm stuck with saying too bad I'm going and breaking her heart, or staying and struggling to find myself and what independence I can have...

Who wins?

Update:

I just want to say...because I think it makes a difference, that this is something I want to do to help me with my depression. I've been in the hospital because of it...and going back to school helped me into feeling like I could take care of myself again; that i didn't need to be watched over.

I'm not afraid to ask for help when I need it, from my family or anyone else. I want to them to be a major part of my life. I just don't know how to explain this all to my mom in a way that she can understand. All she sees is me wanting to go live with my boyfriend. Not me trying to pull myself out of depression and wanting to find my way and be happy with where I am right now.

Update 2:

Just to clarify...as from one person's answer I don't think it was clear: The reason I bounced back and forth between school and home was because of my depression. Both semesters that I stayed home, it was because I had been in the hospital.

I just want to finally be able to do things for myself...be myself.

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  • rainyday
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago
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    i don't know how you're going to convince your mom when you've been bouncing back and forth. you haven't convinced her that you know what's best for you with this track record, so that's why she's not buying your story.

    look hard for another place. boyfriend and his family will only complicate matters and you don't need any more drama.

    see if you can find a student roommate instead. if you want the change you're talking about, look for a fresh, clean start. good luck.

  • mimegamy
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    I agree you might need to move out of the house but I am not so sure moving to your BF's house is the right move. Stay around home until you feel you can find a roommate and get an apartment close to home and campus.

  • charliecizarny
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    There are usualy lots of people looking for honest roommates to share apts. or house costs. Look around. Roomates aren't family, and you'd still be out and on your own.

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