How to feel better?

It sounds like it would help to:

1) encourage your husband to get going on some productive venture at home, to hold his interest. He doesn't need to sit by you at class. If he's so disabled he needs a babysitter, get him enrolled in a day care program for adults!!

2) make it a pact in your marriage that your husband is not permitted to comment on your appearance, unless you ask, OR the appearance of any other women. Period. You just don't need that.

3) figure out something your husband can do to earn money, even if it's $2.00 an hour. He needs the feeling that he is contributing to the family income, to have any self-respect.

4) forget about your own appearance & focus on YOU as a holistic person. You are doing wonderful things with your life. Focus your energies on those things. Your body is simply a vehicle to share your delightful energy.

5) Take more time out for relaxation & fun time, alone, with friends, and with your husband. Don't just work. Don't spend all your free time punishing yourself about your body. It's not important, except to be kept healthy!

6) Go to marital therapy, if you wish to, to discuss how the two of you relate, and to improve your relationship. You are suffering from a marital problem, NOT a weight problem!

I saw the pics and you look absolutely fine. Your husband is not Brad Pitt and really has no right to act like that towards you!!! That being said, talk to him, and make some effort if you feel you need to lose weight like drinking more water and walking faster or taking the stairs there are tons of websites devoted to this stuff. Realize that this to shall pass and when you do start working as an RN things will change in your life for the better.

First of all you should be very proud of yourself for going to nursing school and trying to do something with your life. You should talk to your husband about the way his talking about other girls makes you feel, just ask him if he would want you talking about other guys that way. I think your pretty and if you really want to excersice park your car alittle further way from your classes and walk or go to a thrift store and buy a bike and try that. I did that and I have lost about 20 lbs in 2 months!!

Hmmmm this is a tough one.....

start hunting about for another job for one if you only have one bra and its falling to pieces iv got a mate that works at asda and it sounds like she's on More money than you( no offence).

if you really want to please him and get his attention try and loose some weight go to you local weight watchers my friend went there and she lost 1 stone in just 6 weeks

also treat yourself go and have a facial and just pamper yourself when you feel better on the inside it really shows on the outside and go on a crazy shopping spree with your mates doesn't matter how much it costs as long as you feel better that's the main thing

hope this helps :D

how can a registered nurse be makeing so little that she can only afford one bra? anyways, what happened to you has happened to many. iam sure if you loose the use of your legs you would be more concerned with that than your weight so get over it, so much worse can be going on. and tell your husband to cut out the disrespectful remarks, he wouldnt want you comenting on what a provider and strong worker some other guy is.

you can change your diet, eat less and it will help you save money. if you going to eat at mc donalds get a kids meal.

you say you have tried slim fast, walking and biking.. but have you simply tried eating less, or eating more healthy?? eating healthy is cheaper so you are lying when you say you cannot afford to change your diet.. a can of vege soup is practically free!

and OMG if you are a full time RN what right do you have to say you cannot afford to get your hair done?? give me a break.. I worked many years PART TIME for MINIMUM wage AND still managed to save up to buy a house!!! so obviously you can afford these things you just chose to spend your money else where...

If your husband is the real caring person you married he shouldn't be making comments on your weight. Just focus on your job and try to tell your husband how you feel. Maybe try foods at the grocery store like weight watchers.

first of all, I can not see or view your pictures.

second of all, you need not to feel bad. it is not easy to lose weight and I am a nutritonist intern now and I am 80 lb over weight than past, but my goal is to lose weight before I become a dietitian.

well, eat right, exericse, and get a lipstick,. your story is not easy, but you also need to tell your husband you need him to pay more attention on you. go to pinic and it is free.

email me if you need to. I think you need encouragement more. you are a good wife and I am proud for what you done for your husband. I think your husband can do something to help him self. let me see if I can email you.

good luck

well i couldnt c the fotos but its doesnt realy matter...as for hair changin there r in the supermarkets easy ways and cheap to change ur colour...but u must make him understand how he makes u feel. i mean u r the one whi takes the money for both and u r the one whos workin all day...if he doesnt get that then throw him out the house so u can keep some money for urself

Just do what you can. I steal time to exercise -- 5 minutes here and there jogging in place; doing chair dips, push ups, crunches and so on. If you can't change your diet, try smaller portions. Good luck -- oh... and your DH could stand to trim down also, to tell him about the pot calling the kettle black. :D