im lonely, what should I do?

You'll be lonely only as long as you allow yourself to be. Don't sit there waiting for a call...call someone. Go out. Exchange a few smiles with strangers. You may find a friend in one of them.

I'm lonely too, call me up and we can hook up. Jk, don't worry about it. Let time take its course, love works out in the end.

We all know the great things that come with the holidays (time off from work, presents under the tree, bowl games). And we all know the not-so-great things that come with the holidays (crazed shoppers, family fights, fruit cake). But no matter how white our Christmas may be, most of us won't be basking in the love and warmth of friends and family this season. In fact, according to research by Psychology Today, nearly 6 in 10 Americans feel lonely and unfulfilled during the holiday season. Why? One top culprit, obviously enough: Recently ended relationships. That said, if this holiday season finds you alone under the mistletoe, that doesn't mean your mood has to be lower than the box-office numbers for Snakes on a Plane. Boost it by finding a new mate over the break. Here's how.

Utilize the holiday party. Don't know if the hottie in accounting is flying solo? Go find out. Approach when he or she is with a mutual friend who can introduce you. Be charming and diplomatic, and drink carefully. Need some talking points? Ask the following: "Did you go on any fun vacations this year?" That simple sentence does three things--it easily breaks the ice (they can tell you about theirs, you can tell them about yours); it helps tip you off as to whether they have a mate; and it brings them back to a happy, fun memory--a feeling they now associate with talking to you. And if no magic hookup results? Flirting is still a healthy activity: A Harvard study found that looking at attractive people activates a pleasure center in the brain usually triggered only by food, drugs, and money.

Locate others who like to give. Experts say that when you're feeling down, it's best to surround yourself with people in some kind of social setting. Given all the group volunteer activities that are available this time of year, you could help yourself and someone else by donating time. And men, consider this: studies have shown that women are attracted to those who give time or money to charities. Although the crowds are crazy, your biggest hot zone (for both the opposite sex and charities) is the mall-84 percent of shopping malls will host charity events this holiday season. Call to find out if they need volunteers. Or check out volunteermatch.org for a listing of charities in your city that are in need of help.

Score on New Year's Eve. Tons of singles hit the bar and party scene on New Year's. But only 16 percent start January strong by exchanging more than a glance with a stranger. How to be one of the lucky few: Prepare wisely. When dressing, don't wear the standard little black dress or charcoal suit. A Cornell University study found that black or dark gray attire is perceived to be more aggressive than lighter colors. They make you look slick, and that's not always the best impression to give. Instead, set yourself to stun in blue. And the shade matters. According to researchers at the University of Utah, color-sensing structures in our eyes preferentially pick out the hue and forward the info on a more direct path to our brains. Choose a blue that matches the formality of your setting. The more buttoned up, the darker the hue.

Give your mood a charge. Forty-eight percent of single women say they're very optimistic that they'll enjoy the upcoming holidays. Only 36 percent of single men share the same positive outlook. So remember, guys: Women like strong men, and not sob stories. Give yourself a testosterone boost by purchasing something manly. Like electronics. Dash's new Express In-Car navigation system (dash.net) might not help with your primary search (finding a potential mate), but it will keep you on the right path. It's the first nav system with two-way connectivity, not only using Wi-Fi and cellular networks to pull in traffic and weather conditions, but also communicating with other Dash drivers and adjusting your route accordingly. And ladies: If the guy you meet this season is a little down, don't hold it against him. Or do. Maybe that will help.

As we live closer and closer together in cities the lonelier we get. Get out and do things that interest you.

if your 18 and over and cute then ill talk to you.