I have a question about my current relationship.?

tell you husband you appreciate his concern (ha!) but since you are a grown woman you will talk to who ever you wish.

The truth will eventually come out.

the real question is - did this guy- nephew know the girl BEFORE or AFTER your husband was engaged to her.

- if he knew the girl before, it means that most probably was attracted to her at that time and to your husband it might seem like dishonesty (it happened to me that my girlfriends went out with my ex boyfriends and I cant say I was thrilled... nothing to do with love, it is about honesty and openness).

- if the nephew guy met the girl AFTER they broke, I am sorry, but I would say that your husband still has feelings for the girl, otherwise he would not get jealous. (it doesn't mean love, but some feeling of possessiveness?)

This is a territory issue for your husband. To your husband, this guy fooling around with his former is a red flag that he may try to seduce you in some way. He isn't saying that he has feelings for the ex or that he doesn't trust you. He is saying that he doesn't trust this guy...

Unless you've known this guy from childhood or you are very, very, close friends, I say don't talk to the guy... There are other people to talk to. If you are close friends, explain the situation to the guy and he will back off if he is concerned for your happiness. You will just be traumatizing your current partner and making him unhappy if you choose a friendship with this guy.

NO, you are not to much into this he is, why the hell is he so worried about somebody being with his ex,i think either there is unfinished business or he enjoyed what she was about and does not want anybody else to have her. i would be worried if my husband felt like that about his ex.

DEFINATELY unfinished business!!! He's getting angry cuz the girl is sleeping with someone else?! Seems like he holds her at the same height as you....I'd confront him and the girl... find out what's really going on!!!

No you aren't reading too much into it. I wouldn't stop talking to the guy. I wouldn't question my hubby because it will cause alot of problems at this point. Also, maybe its not that he still wants her it could be that he doesn't want to chance her telling the man something about him and the man telling you.

You're not necessarily reading too much into it -- there might be something unresolved. However, it's not uncommon for many people (so I hear -- I'm not one of them) to evermore feel a sense of ownership regarding their exes. I don't think it means that he wants or expects to get back with her -- I think it's just a weird, possessive mindset.

By the way, regarding your screen name, I just have to say I don't think I've ever seen anyone get so precise in their naughty/nice measuring!

I think maybe your husband doesn't want her nephew getting time in with you.

need to ask your hubby what the hell does a nephew sleeping with an ex has to do with him? is he still di*king her too?

I agree with bootson ...there is something that happened in that relationship and he doesn't want all the stories getting back to you. Maybe she has lots of info he doesn't want you to know about.