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Wedding invitation help!!!?

We are having a small wedding (me, fiance, my parents, his mom, step-dad who is also minister, his real dad, and my sister & her fam, and his 2 brothers & their families) It will be in my parents backyard, not a very formal affair, but he is wearing a tux, me a dress & are wedding "party" is our daughter as flower girl. My sister is making invites, even though everyone knows about it already. We are going to treat everyone to dinner afterwards, but how do we word invites? I don't want them too stuffy, but I don't want them jenky either. Also, we are going to have a reception for ALL friends/family etc a week after we get back from honeymoon, it is going to be very casual at our home, from 2-whenever, big bonfire, food, beer etc. How do we word the reception invites? Thanks All!

Update:

Also, how do I keep my MIL from inviting everyone in her family? I have a feeling she is telling everyone when & where it is, and I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but we really only want immediate family there. (That is about all we can afford too!) I have already told her that the wedding is only goinng to be X people, but she has a tendency to throw a fit when things don't go her way!

Update 2:

Okay---for the 1st answer, so we shouldn't send out invites to our family? I think thats kinda weird....I know its very small/intimate, but I thought invites were necessary!

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Is she willing to pay for it??? If she's willing to pay for it - then, let her invite who she wants, if not....she's just going to have to throw a fit. Welcome to the world of marriage!

    I had a backyard wedding and I paid for it, therefore I did not add any parents names.

    Wedding invite: I put.....his name/my name, invite youto share with them while they exchange vows in the garden ceremony at their home (address).

    For the reception you can put something fun:

    Your daughters name, invites you to a reception to celebrate in the joining of marriage of her parents: Your name/his name which took place during a garden ceremony on (date).

    Or....

    Mr. & Mrs. ______ announce their marriage which took place in the backyard of their home on ???? Please join in celebrating with a reception on (date).

    However you do it - just remember to enjoy your day. Don't sweat the small stuff...just have fun!!

    I wish you the very best of luck! Congratulations!!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Honestly, if the wedding is going to be strictly immediate families, I'd forego the invites.

    As for the FMIL, you and your fiance' should sit her down and explain that you want the wedding to be a very small, simple affair with just the immediate families. When she makes suggestions for people she wants to invite, remind her what you and your fiance' want.

    EDIT (after reading additional details): Sending invites isn't necessary for such an intimate gathering. A better idea would be to have programs for keepsakes. Now, if you'd be inviting a few cousins, aunts, uncles, etc., then I would recommend sending invites. But not for an immediate-family-only wedding.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    If ur mother in law tells ppl about the wedding...they should be smart enough to think "If i were come to the wedding...shouldn't I be invited first?" I am getting married in April and would find it rude if ppl came to my wedding who were not invited. Maybe on a card (the size of a response card) add additional information on both sides **if these ppl are coming to both the dinner after the wedding AND reception**. However to those who are JUST coming to the reception then on one side of the card put info on it that only they need to know. I kno its against 'etiquette' to put where ur registered at in an invite...but i did this in mine. Point is :) do what u need to do to get info to the ppl! :) U can still be classy :)

    Check this link out below...ur able to click links and it'll display ways of wording invitations

    http://www.invitationsetc.com/m1_ew.htm

    as well as try this one as well...

    http://weddings.about.com/od/weddinginvitations/a/...

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