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is this too selfish? my sex drive is getting higher and hers isnt!!?
ok me and my gf have been together for about a year. about three months into our relationship she was injured on her job. and her sex drive has gone way down since then. right after she got hurt it wasn't so bad, but now we're having problems and it's like hers is just gone. and i feel bad because i'm horny all the time. i try to understand that the medications she's on do have an affect on her libido, but what about mine? i don't want to sound like an ******, but i can't help but think about myself? what should i do because taking care of it myself isn't working anymore. it's gratifying but not satisfying you know? HELP!!
I dont mean to make it sound as though sex is the only thing that i think about because that's not the case. i go to work and i have other hobbies as well. i'm a really stand up guy and i dont want to do something that i might regret later. but things are really bad between us right now and we're kind of in limbo. so i don't know what i should do next.
8 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
It's not selfish to want sex, but it's not ok to pressure her into it either.
You can try romancing her. Watching sappy movies with hot sex scenes, or even porn (if she likes that kind of stuff.) Try helping her libido a bit. Flowers and candy are great, but just letting her know how hot you think she is and how much you want her works too, make her feel sexy and it'll make her want to have more sex.
Don't bring up how much sex you're not getting, because that will just make her feel guilty or annoyed, neither emotion makes a girl want to jump in the sack with you.
Also how long is she going to be on these pills? If eventually she's going to be able to stop taking them then her sex drive will rev back up again when shes off them and you can look forward to the proverbial light at the end of the tunnel.
If the pills are a permanent fixture then you're going to have to do some serious thinking about your relationship, weather you love her enough to deal with life with less sex.
- 1 decade ago
I don't find it too selfish...sex is a need that creates a want... if you really love her and she loves you as well...good thing is to have a very honest conversation about that..if you haven't already..tell her how much you do understand her but also how you feel about that. If there is love, i am sure you will find a way out....together
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Um, maybe if you stopped thinking about yourself, and helped your gf out more (she got hurt, be there for her), mayb you wouldn't be the horny lil monkey that you are right now. Occupy your time in other ways, and don't think about it as much; or if you are that desperate to get some in, then go out and cheat, but hey, its either gain respect and help out your gf, or risk losing everything to satisfy YOUR wants.
- 1 decade ago
If you really care about her, you should try and be understanding and not think of your needs only. And dude, you seriously need a hobby or two...other than sex!
- Anonymous1 decade ago
talk to her about it. do something romantic or touch her in places you know will turn her on. you have to communicate with her. maybe she hasn't noticed since shes on the meds. i think once you talk and be romantic you guys sex life will be great.
- 1 decade ago
theres really nothing you do my man...if you really love her you just got to stick with it until shes fully healed or you have to move on....there is really no LEGAL way to increase her sex drive
