My Sons Girfriend is Driving Me Crazy!!!!?

It sounds like your son is important to you & you love him as your son. So . . . . .

Hmmmmm . . . <still thinking> . . . Hmmmmm, what to do? [I am a Dad, too; see my profile] . . . well? I think, . . . that since your son is 21, that he is of legal age. And so, since it LQQKS like he isn't working his way through school, and he IS working, that maybe it could be time for him to, . . ahh, . .. shall I say, do the "adult thing"? That is, maybe he should work towards finding a roommate to live with [No, I didn't say his GF] and find a place of his own. And the way to do this might be to sit down w/ him and tell him that this will be better for both of you [he may not see it that way NOW, but later on in life he may recognize the value].

Then make a plan with him, set a goal [aka a date]. Then work with him to attain that goal [full autonomy]. The date should be a realistic one, like 90 days maybe. Not a time constraint that chokes him. And then, if you HELP him, inside you can realize that this will happen and also you will see the "light at the end of the tunnel".

Bon fortune

I so agree with you. The son should be responsible and start getting his life started in the ugly real world. I am going through girlfriend issues with my 20year old. He lives at home, goes to school full time and works at odd jobs here and there. He's been with this girl for 6 months and she has him wrapped around her finger. I have told him its time for him to move on and start his life. He comes and goes as he wants, uses our cars, we pay the cell bill, has all the comforts of a home. He doesn't contribute monetarily because he doesn't make enough and uses what he has for school. My spouse feels school is more important and does not mind him living for free here. My son spends 90% of his time with her. I don't like her, never have. But I have no control over that issue. She lives in a college dorm and is not allowed to sleep over in my home. He is free to stay with her. My issue is his coming and going any all hours of the night. Everyone tells me, he's 20 yrs old he should come as go as he wants. I say my house - my rules. I've kicked him out once before for taking the girlfriend out of state in my car without my permission. He begged to come back and agreed to follow my house rules. I talked with him about getting his life together (find a job, move out). He claims since he works part time, he is working. My spouse feels he is doing nothing wrong by coming or going out late. I disagree. I'm constantly battling for control of my house and I always lose. I also have a boomerang daughter. She just graduated from college and her and her spouse moved in with us to save money 2 years ago. She is now looking for work and agrees its time for them to move on. I just want my house back so I can enjoy my retirement.

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