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Well i know that i need to stay pure till marriage but sometimes i feel tempted to, you know, do it, before marriage. i haven't had any "invititations" or anything, I just need help and encouragement please!

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  • tina
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    Temptations are normal, but so is self control. We are people, not animals, and I'm very proud of you for making such a mature decision.

    the best thing I can suggest is to decide it for yourself. You sound like its family pressure or something, but I wasn't too enthusiastic about that either. I had to decide for myself not to do it until I was married.

    I figure, with an act that special, something all about opening up yourself completely to one person, you shouldn't have to protect yourself with a condom or birth control. You should be able to give yourself to them. And that means you're going to have babies, and they belong in a happy household with 2 parents who can love and provide for them.

    Think of your virginity like a stick of gum. If you give it to someone to "chew", and then they give it back to you when they are done, when that special person really does come along, all you'll have to give them is some gross ABC gum.

    And if its a matter of being in love with someone, wouldn't it show more love to not want to have sex with them? To prove that you love them for them?

    And anybody who says that you need to have sex before marriage because its like "buying a car without test driving it first" is a fool. If you have an actually good relationship with a strong emotional base "test driving" the sex isn't necessary.

    Those are just my reasons. Maybe some of them will work for you. I'm very proud of you and I hope you stay strong in your decision :)

    Source(s): I'm 16, 17 next month, and I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half
  • 1 decade ago

    Consider getting a purity ring... it's supposed to be a reminder to everyone that you want to stay pure and so that people will know that you don't want to be touched.... and I want to stay pure too and it's going to be tough but just think that in the long run, it's totally going to be worth the wait. :-)

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I feel totally the same way, not that I have had any offers, but i understand. I just need to have self will and remember God

  • Liz
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    What you are feeling is perfectly normal. Everyone has temptations. Your goal should be to be stronger and resisit the temptation and wait until marriage.

  • 1 decade ago

    what i will say it depend how old u are if ur 18 and older go ahead but if ur not i say wait if ur so tempetd try calling 311 and ask them to transfer u to a woman health angecie then from there u talk to them about ur problem hope this help

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    just think of it this way....

    you're going to hold hands, kiss, cuddle, and hug almost every guy you date....

    you need to save something special for the person that you're going to spend your life with. something that's just his. He should be the one with your virginity.

    hang in there

    Source(s): 14 yrs old
  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Okay. Well, if you feel tempted too...idk what to say. You should wait untill amrriage till having sex. but, its good.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it! do it!

    why do you need to stay "pure" do it when you are mentally ready and mature enough to handle it

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