How do I tell my girlfriend that I'm addicted. . .?

Start by telling her how hard it is for you just talking about this and how you really need her to be there for you. Then begin at the beginning. Tell her your history, then move on to the present. Make it clear that you are genuinely sorry for starting up again, and that you really would like to stop but you need her help and support. Just be truthful, and I'm sure she'll be touched with your trust and honesty.

I've been dating my boyfriend for quite some time now, and he recently told me he smokes weed..... All the time. And yes, you're probably thinking "Well, thats not even close to the things i'm putting in my body" Which is totally true, and I understand. But I am totally against people who do drugs, and he knew it too. I would be terrified to lose him! When he told me, I was furious. I cried for a long time whenever I thought about it, and it just tore me into pieces. But we talked, and talked, and we made a commitment to each other. Talking with your love is probably the best thing that you can do. Where I was trying to go with my story is, we are still together. And even though he is addicted to this drug, hes working on it. And you have to promise your girl that you are trying to stop too, and eventually will. It sounds like your guys love is pretty strong. And love is hard to break. If you tell her the truth, she wont be as mad as if she found out on her own. I hope this helped. I really wish you the best of luck.

First of all, you need to make the decision to get off drugs. I do understand what it's like to be addicted to something because I smoke and have had a really hard time stopping. But heroin's a very dangerous drug. I recommend that you enter some kind of rehab program to detox and help you handle things without drugs. I have heard good things about Narconon. As for your girlfriend, communicate with her and let her know what you're going through. I'm sure as long as she knows you will be stopping she will be supportive.

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Get yourself pumped for the approach. Be ready to be pure and completely true to your future wife like you were in this posted question. Approach her face to face confrontation, and discuss how strong both your love is and how you would not want anything to interfere although there is one thing left before you step into the world of full time commitment. Admit it in a slow serious tone, making perfect eye contact with her, perhaps hold her hand while addmitting it. I understand that it can wreck everything for you at this time, and the effort you put into this relation ship means your life. Be faithful to her and tell her and hope she understands you.

Good luck buddy.

I'm glad you've decided to tell her, it is definitely not fair to her to keep it a secret. My bf of four years used to do drugs, at one point he started a little bit again and kept it secret for a while, even after that, I was so mad, but I also just didn't want to loose him to drugs. I'm sure your fiance would feel the same way. Start with something like "Honey, I really need to talk to you" She'll know your being serious and sincere. And make sure you do it at your home and nowhere in public. I'm not saying it's going to be easy,she'll be upset, but if she loves you, she'll want to help you. I wish you luck.

If you really love her, and she is the most important thing to you in the world, she should be your motivation to stop doing what your doing. I would sit her down when your both calm and you know you have time to talk, and tell her about the extent of your drug use. Tell her you are addicted and that you want to stop b/c you want to be able to be with her. Hopefully she will be supportive and help you get what you need to change.

But if you know the heroin is bad, and you fall in easily, why are you using again?

stay clean...its worth it

First congrats on getting yourself together. Sometimes it takes losing just about every major thing in your life to make people come off of stuff. If you want to keep this girl around, you need to tell her NOW. Yes it will put a strain on the relationship, but if you don't tell her and she finds out, it will be worse. And if she happens to find out after you've gotten married to her, who knows how that will screw things up.

I think the best thing to do is tell her you need to have a serious talk with her and that you need to get a huge weight off of your shoulders. Tell her EVERYTHING. Don't leave anything out just because she gets angry or whatever. Once she calms down and takes it all in, you don't want to have to add any more to it or you'll just make it worse. Don't do anything stupid like try to take her out to dinner or something to "ease the blow". That sort of "blow" is not eased by anything. Admit to her that you are addicted and you WILL go to rehab. Like other people have said before me, if you don't plan to quit, be prepared for her to be out the door. I can tell you if my boyfriend told me something like that, i couldn't promise that i'd hang around (and this is the man i want to marry). I've actually dumped an ex addict for taking a pill someone handed to him while he was at work; he didn't bother to see what it was, just took it and passed out for nearly half a day. His ex fiance is his EX fiance for that very reason. So it's not a game.

Once you tell her, obviously she'll either try to stick it out with you or get up and leave. Whatever happens, put yourself in a rehab center immediately if possible. I understand you are in the middle of school. Perhaps you need to take a semester off to do this. If she's around, great. She can help you through this. If she's not, you'll have to rely on yourself and your family/friends.

If telling her turns out to be a mistake, it will only be because you've hidden this from her for so long. If she leaves, own up to it being your fault and move on from it. Easier said than done, i realize. But it is what you have to do. For now, make a commitment to be COMPLETELY drug free for one year before marrying her.

Well first off, do you plan on stopping? Because if you don't, then be prepared for her to walk out on you.

But since it seems like you want her to help you, just tell her. Tell her you need to have a serious talk with her and to listen to you completely before she passes judgment. You can figure it out from there.

It won't be a mistake, if she leaves you then she's not strong enough to be with you. Be honest and be true, tell her you're trying to quit and that you need her support.

Better to tell her the truth now; it is not all about you and your needs. She deserves honesty and respect. I know that after this batch, you believe you are done. But I doubt it. You say nothing of your recovery, meetings, etc. Sounds like you are in denial about the extent of your use and your love of Heroin. Go to a meeting and tell everyone what you just printed here.

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