Tell future kids about their sibling?

Yes. It's not the same, but I had 2 miscarriage 10 weeks apart in between my daughter and my son, and I plan on telling them that they have two very special siblings watching over them and protecting them. I'll explain to them that although we will never get to see them or touch them, they are always very close to us and never leave our side. They make sure that we are happy and safe, and it makes them happy that we are happy.

When my daughter was about 10 months old, the safety gate at the top of the basement stairs came loose and she fell down the basement stairs. At the bottom is concrete floor. She landed on top of a heavy blanket and did not suffer any injuries at all. I am convinced to this day that her siblings in heaven were watching over her, and made sure she had that soft landing and no injuries.

Our children are our children, they are still brothers and sisters to our living children, regardless of how long or short a time they spent with us.

My 1st child was born at 28 wks and passed away 3 hours after his birth. I've already started telling my kids about there big brother. My kids are 2 & 1 and don't really understand yet but we got to the cemetary and visit him and we see him in pictures. When my kids get older I plan on reading them this poem. ((BIG HUGS))

A different child, people notice

There's a special glow around you.

You grow surrounded by love

Never doubting you are wanted;

Only look at the pride and joy

In your mother and father's eyes.

And if sometimes between the smiles

There's a trace of tears,

One day you'll understand.

You'll understand there was once another child.

A different child.

Who was in their hopes and dreams.

That child will never outgrow the baby clothes.

That child will never keep them up at night.

In fact, that child will never be any trouble at all...

Except sometimes, in a silent moment,

When mother and father miss so much

That different child.

May hope and love wrap you warmly

And may you learn the lesson forever:

How infinitely precious,

How infinitely fragile is this life on earth.

One day, as a young man or woman

You may see another mother's tears

Another father's silent grief

Then you, and you alone will understand

And offer the greatest comfort.

When all hope seems lost

you will tell them with great compassion:

"I know how you feel.

I'm only here because my parents tried again."

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You have to follow your heart. In my personal opinion, I think you should. Even though the child is gone now, he will always be a part of you and your future children's history. It's also a way to honor your deceased son.

I would. When appropriate of course. I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks pregnant...6 weeks prior to concieving our son (second living child). We fully intend on explaining that to our 3 kids once they are older (teens/or adults even). They deserve to know, and have the medical history side of it. For us it isn't that "big of a deal" (that makes me want to cry to type), because we never had/knew the baby....but I still think they should know about it.

Yes,you should tell them they are gonna have to find out sooner or later.Even though your deceased child is not with you physically,he is spirtually they deserve to know they have a angel watching over them.

Sorry for your loss, god bless!

Sure. In a very honest and open way. Just explain that you had a baby before they were born and he was taken to be with God. Explain that it will not happen to them in the same way (so they are not scared to be taken away from you) but you wanted them to know so they can love their angel brother too.

I think that when you think your children are ready to hear about him then you SHOULD tell him.

Let them know that they had a big brother but he is now in Heaven. Tell them what happened to them unless it is something that is going to give them nightmares.

I am SO sorry for your loss.

Yes, your angel in heaven is still your angel.

Your other kids should know they have a brother, and that they will see him one day.

It's healthy for you to talk about it also.

Good luck in your future.

I don't see a problem with that.After all, it was their brother whether they knew him on this life or not.

I would mention it when they are around 8-10 or so.

Of course! He may not be with you now, but he IS their brother. There is no reason to keep that from them.