Mother of college daughter?

i am a mother of a college son and all he wants to do is be with his friends we just have to get use to it he has a girlfriend that i dont trust at least she is not dating someone you dont like or trust .

I noticed there were some mean responses to your question. I am the father of 4 college kids (2 girls and 2 boys). All kids are different and mine have "grown up" at different rates, so there are no hard and fast rules, but here are my guidelines:

1. Don't smother. They react badly to that and pull away harder.

2. Accept and encourage your daughter to fly the coop. It's good for her.

3. Don't overly indulge her either and don't be the piggy bank. Allowance days should have ended at about 16, when she could have gotten a part time job. If you are still giving her an allowance, talk to her about getting a part time job, or perhaps about still paying a "student stipend" but paying for fewer of her expenses so she has to make responsible decisions.

4. Remember, the most important thing she should be doing right now is working toward her degree. The ground rule should be as long as she is progressing well toward that, you will help her get by, but if she's squandering the opportunity, she will have to get a job and move out.

5. If your relationship is okay in general, but she's just busy with school and school related social life, talk to her about setting up a weekly time where you two can spend some time together, but don't expect her to give up her prime Friday or Saturday nights. Maybe it will be doing some mundane things together such as grocery shopping or laundry, or a movie matinee. (On the other hand, if your relationship is touchy and/or she's bratty you just keep being nice to be around and do nice things, but continue to be firm about her following the family's rules. Hopefully she will grow out of that.)

6. Finally, if the relationship is toxic, then it may be time for her to go. You could try to talk to her about what makes your relationship with her bad, but don't expect much agreement. Sometimes the best solution is a little bit of real life.

Good luck.

give her space. just let her know you are there if she needs you. unless something happened between you that caused this breech... she should come back around in a few years. usually when girls get older they come back to their moms bec. they have more in common (like in their mid 20s). right now she's having a grand time at college with new friends..maybe a boyfriend...and enjoying a freedom she hasn't experienced before. it's totally normal. parents usually aren't part of the main picture when kids are in college!!!!!!!!!!

instead of worrying about her not wanting to spend time with you- you should be focusing on YOU- and doing things that you haven't been able to do in 18 years. It's time to find yourself again- your hobbies, your likes. You are experiencing "empty nest syndrome"!!!! get out and do something you love. take a class, go on a vacation!

Start doing stuff for yourself. It's weird and difficult at first but you'll adjust and love it. I started having "spa" days, horse back riding (just bought my own horse), reading books, got a fabulous rescue dog, the sky's the limit and it's your life now. When you stop needing her she'll want you.

Give her space.When she is ready and misses you she will come around. Otherwise i suggest finding a new hobby, friends, activities, a job?

give her space ..My daughter doesnt want to hang out with mom either...but I respect that and she comes to me when it really counts

Nothing.

Ease up.

get over it. and stop trolling