Can't take it when people don't understand?

its probably because they havent been in the situation and dont know how frustrating and upsetting it is every month when you dont concieve!! I am pregnant with #2 from ivf and went through alot of disappointments before we were lucky enough. Just hang in there, dont let other peoples opinions get you down, and most of all goodluck for next month!!

You are SO not alone on this one. My husband had the nerve to say at lunch today, "God's timing babe." Which of course, is infuruating to no end. I don't think people realize how crass and insensitive they sound when passing that tripe off as consolation. It's maddening. If someone got passed up for a promotion it certainly wouldn't be acceptable to say "Well, it just wasn't meant to happen this time." Or if somone was in a car accident it wouldn't appropriate to console with "God's will, I guess." So why is it OK to tell someone who has worked and prayed and done everything freaking right, "You just weren't meant to be a parent." I think they don't realize that this implies that everyone out there with kids were meant to be parents, and how the flip can that be right. What about people out there getting pregnant and having abortions, was that meant to be, was that God's timing? But, when my test comes back negative AGAIN it's all in God's plan. Anyway, rant over. Short answer, you're not alone.

Here's what I've found, if something is happening to whomever you're talking to, it's important. If they were TCC, you can believe that BFN would be a big deal. But if it's not happening to them, it isn't really real, and thus isn't really important. This may not be true of everyone, but it's certainly true of a lot of people in my life.

Oh yeah.. Not even my hubby understands the pain of a bfn, missed ovulation, etc... I have all sisters, older, so they know what I mean. But my oldest never had children and can't so she doesn't quite get it and she tends to give me the "It'll happen when it's supposed to happen" crap! Part of me knows that's true, but that's not what I need to hear right then. I need to be held, listened too, and have a good cry to get my courage up for next month. We've been ttc for 14 months, and miscarried several times in that time period. That's all I was told by everybody, including doctors everytime. It makes me feel like I'm crazy or something! Ugg. You're not alone!

I hear you! If I were you, I would leave them out of the trying business. Their responses might get you even more stressed. Everyone says that as soon as they relaxed and stopped trying, it happened. Just stop talking to them about. Rely on your significant other and chats rooms for support. You will need everyone else's support once you are pregnant.

Yep, I get that too. You don't really want to hear that "well maybe next month" and "it will happen when it is supposed to happen". I get tired of it too. I pretty much just talk to my husband about it because everyone tells me the same things and I get tired of hearing it too. Here's to us getting a bfp and everyone else leaving us alone!!!! Baby dust!

I can completely understand. People think they are helping you and making you feel better, but they are actually hurting your feelings. I had a Miscarriage and people would say it was for the best. Can't imagine how that is for the best but people say silly things. Keep your chin up! Baby dust is coming your way. Think 2009 is your year!

This site is full of people like you. Also go to fertilityties.com

People who aren't TTC don't get how important it is to you. They can't possible relate to your desire to concieve. I'd leave them out of it and not discuss it with anyone. If anyone asks how it is going tell them you don't want to talk about it.