Moving in together...is this a bad decision, please read!!!!?

You need to look at your whole relationship with the time you have known him, 3 months is not long enough but since you have know him for over 7 years that can make a difference.

Think about how he was during that time and how you may have noticed his other relationships.

Ask yourself is he looking for someone to split rent with and have an available baby sitter when he has custody of his son? As long as moving in together is not just to save money on rent and the relationship is solid, that should help you decide.

Good Luck

I don't think you're crazy, but I do think it is to soon. Even tho you've known eachother for a long time, it's been a different kind of relationship.

If the love is there, it will continue to be there if you don't move in. I'd wait for a least a year or 2. See how this EX situation works out. Rent maybe cheaper, but your sanity is more important.

You don't want the little boy to get attached to you and daddy being together and end up getting hurt again if it doesn't work out.

With this relationship, you're accepting his son also. There's allot of responsibility raising a child, even part time. I'm NOT saying you don't know how, i'm just saying you need to be aware of where you stand if you make such a commitment. This means looking out for the best interests of his son as if he were your very own.

Do you think you'd have time for a child? Is the father completely over the mother? Are they legally done with? So many questions you need to have answers for within your own mind before making a choice, in my opinion.

Sorry about being long winded...just wanted to cover all bases. Good luck in whatever you choose to do.

Here are the questions I would ask:

1. What will you do for work/school in the new location? Will you have any support other than the boyfriend near by? You need to be able to have your own life in some form wherever you are.

2. What is your relationship with his son? Are you prepared to be a part-time step-mom? Kids grow attached really fast.

3. What will be the arrangements financially? I would discuss in detail who will pay for what in advance, as much as possible.

My instant reaction is to say that the time together is too short (although since you've known each other for years, that definitely helps) and you are too young. But I'm a cynic. Whatever you do, I hope it works out.

I do not believe it is a good idea.

I think you should at least wait until March. I think you owe it to your best friends/roommates to stick to you commitment of the lease and be there. If you move in with him, your roommates will have to make up the money for rent that you are no longer providing, which can really upset them.

Even though you and your boyfriend have known each other so long, 3 months of dating seems too early for you to move in with him, especially if he has a child. I know it is hard for you, living far away, but If both you and your boyfriend see a good future for each other, then you can make through waiting 3 months more to move in together.

DON'T DO IT.

you've only dated him for three months. you do not know his quirks yet. knowing someone for a long time is different then living with someone.

say you move in with him and everything is peaceful but as days go by there are things that you don't like about him and the other way around. you both will start not getting along and this will lead to more arguments and so on.

also he has a kid already. do not accept someone Else's responsibility if you haven't chosen too. kids are a pain, plus hes a young parent so things will go awry. plus the baby moms will cause drama. you better think about this hard cause cheap rent doesn't mean squat if your life is gonna be hectic all the time due too the bf and his kid. and he could kick you out at any time.

I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 25...he wouldn't even dream of moving in together yet. and i ALSO live with my two best friends! If I were you, I would stay with my girls at LEAST until March. You can always move in with him after. And being apart for 3 months really isn't that bad as long as you have good communication and make it a priority to see eachother as much as you can. You're still in the new fun part of the relationship! So be cautious about how well you know eachother. When/If you move, invite your friends to help. Make it a point to tell them how hard the decision was for you and how you HAVE to see them as much as possible. You won't lose them. ****, they have to be in your wedding, right!??!

So if you say no he will not move closer i.e. into the house without you? Is that right? That is a big weight on you. You can give it a go but you have a lot of issues here. Leaving your friends, his kid... However, you've known each other for years (though dated 3 months). This might turn out okay. If you really want to do this, then do it. But the best advice I was ever given (thanks mom) is, "when in doubt--don't". Are your doubts that heavy?

Oh I think that wouldn't be a horrible idea. It's scary to move in with a guy but it's been worth it for me. I moved in with my boyfriend that I knew only about a month before we started dating and I moved in after 3 months because I needed a different place to stay. I'm still with him after 1 1/2 years and though we've had our problems it's nice to be so close to the person you love/care about.

The only problem I really see in all that is the baby mama. But if she's not crazy.. then maybe it won't be an issue. I guess you'd have to deal with her sometime anyway if you see yourself marrying him.

But to answer your question, no I don't think it's too soon. I moved in with my boyfriend after dating only 3 months (kinda, and then officially after 4 months). It was because we see ourselves together in the future. We know we're going to get married, and we kinda did a little trial period first to see how it worked.

I guess what I'm saying is, when you know, you know. But it kinda sounds like you don't know. So maybe you shouldn't. But I don't think 6 months is too soon.

I think you should give it a bit longer... you may've known the person for 7 years but you haven't dated them for that long... and people can be different in dating relationships than friendships. If I were you I'd wait til you've dated at least a year. Just so you're sure.