My 7 year old daughter is getting painfully shy the older she gets.?

When I was that age, I was terrified of people thinking what I said was dumb or making fun of my ideas. My parents were both loving, and always praised me and told me when I said something smart. I don't know what my problem is, but it was horrible. I would seriously recommend getting help--a councilor or somebody who knows about this.

It may be a disorder of some sort, which is not your fault. Now is the time to figure out what causes the problem, so you can help her.

For right now, just try to give her a comforting environment. If she has retreated to her room when guests are over, don't force her out. Ask if you can come in. If she says yes ask her why she wants to be in her room.

The more information you have, the more help you can be.

I hope everything works out alright for you and your daughter.

I'm a 28 year old only child. All my life, I have been really shy around people I don't know well - especially with people around my own age. It would take me a good few months, if not a year, to get to really know someone enough to let my true self come out.

Honestly, I don't think you can 'change' someone. It's just part of who they are. I do think that being an only child and not getting enough social interaction when I was young was a part of it for sure. But when people tried to force me to talk, it just made it harder for me. I was just shy and was content with it, lol, in fact, really out going people get on my nerves!

Don't make her feel like she's acting 'wrong' or not 'normal' - just let her be. I'm now an adult, married, college graduate, and have a job as a mental health social worker. Being 'shy' hasn't stopped me from doing anything that I've wanted to do in life. :)

What does she like to do? Nature? Art? Beading? Music? Time to sign her up for a class with a friend. If she likes nature take her to a nature center and sign her up for one of there classes (maybe one that is for the whole family the first time).

She has to stop focusing on herself and focus on an activity that she is good at.

Personally I would put her in Montessori School. These kids rarely are shy. The education is all about building self esteem and encouraging kids to try things.. no such a thing as failure here!

Good Luck

She needs social activities that force her to work with other children. Girl Scouts and nature walks were good suggestions, but other options include theater, dance, sports, and cheer. All of these activities encourage children to work together towards achieving a common goal.

Seasonal group activities create camaraderie and friendships with other girls who will afterward share the same experiences. These shared experiences will allow your daughter to relate in a wholesome way to her new friends.

One final thought is to make sure nothing is troubling her. Has she been dealing with bullies? Are there any particular relatives or other people that she doesn't like for whatever reason? Or it could be something as simple as not liking her clothes or hair and needs a makeover to boost her confidence. Good luck.

It is a stage.. re assure her and explain that no one can read minds.. in this day and aage we all have to speak up. Ask her everyday.. how did school go.. mommy always got you back if you have a problem. get her to trust you first. It will take time but it will happen.. Good luck!

Ok when i was about 5 i started to get shy

i was scared of everybody and looked rude because i didnt tralk to anybody

she will get over it

when i was about 9 i started opening up again

it will pass.

you should encourage her to go meet new people

and to open out

tach her how to behave and that its polite to talk to new people

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were you shy or your husband > Is she an only child ?

get her into girl scouts maybe and that way she can start interacting with a group

good luck

sounds like social anxiety disorder ..counsiling can help her develope skills to over come this ..it starts to show itself between 7 and 10 yrs old