He Might Go to Jail and I'm Pregnant!?

You need to take care of yourself and the baby - the stress will NOT hurt the baby unless YOU let it. You should get yourself undercontrol and seek help especially as you state that you have an anger managment issue, too.

As to your boyfriend - state your concerns and let it be. You cannot make him do or not do anything. He needs to grow up and be responsible and seek help, too!

There are anger management classes - aren't you worried about this temper around an innocent baby?

Get your priorities straight - you and the baby come first.

I agree with the others. For your sake and the baby's, leave him. But you obviously still like him, so the only way to fix the situation is if he CHANGES his attitude and starts caring MORE for you and the baby. Maybe try talking to him and arranging anger management classes. If your still in high school, try talking to your counselor to arrange something so that he can get help. I know there must be some community or free sessions available that people are able to enroll in if you don't want to spend the money.

However, all your efforts will be for nothing if he doesn't even want to change. If he can't see that he's in a very dangerous situation, where he could end up in jail and lose you and your baby, then he isn't worth being a father. To a dad, a baby should be his number one concern and he should be willing to do anything for its well-being.

Like i said before, if he won't change, leave him.

I'm sorry, if this isn't what you want to hear, but hopefully you'll have others around you to help give you the support you need. ^_^

Best wishes and good luck.

There is too much working against the both of you, and you are not good for each other. Please do the right thing and give the baby up for adoption, then start a new life, without your boyfriend.

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He refuses to give the baby up for adoption. Interesting. How do you plan to support this baby when you cannot even pass your classes? How do you expect to hold a job? And you boyfriend, who cannot attend school without hitting someone and then getting thrown in jail?

There are couples out there who pray for a chance to have a baby, and/or pay big bucks trying to adopt in another country. I suspect you are not even taking vitamins, and yes--the STRESS is harmful to the baby. Everything you do right now--effects the baby.

If the two of you truly love this child--then do the right thing. Do not bring up a baby in an environment that is toxic! You both have anger issues--you will either take it out on each other or on the baby--neither environment is good.

Where are the parents in all of this? Would one of them adopt the child and raise it?

Please do to the right thing. Focus on the baby.

Yes, there is something you can do. Get legal advice and talk to an adult. He refuses--what a joke--he is potentially a wife abuser and a child abuser--he has control issues. He is going to end up dead sooner or later using fists now--gun/knife later. Where is your self-esteem? Do you care about yourself? Your future? Your baby?

Sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do, especially with a child on the way, Im sorry but he sounds a little unstable, are you sure that that is what you want in your life when you have a baby coming?? He sounds like he needs to go back to his anger management classes if he obviously cannot function in society without using his fists when he feels someone wronged him. He needs to be with you and the baby and not in jail. Maybe you should get a mutual friend or relative of his to convince him to get some help, I would not recommend you doing so yourself though.

He's basically a father now, he needs to straighten out. I understand anger problems [[I have one]] and in the end he can handle it and so can you. The father of my child was in jail when I found out the sex of the baby...and for many days. It was horrible I can't lie but the baby stayed healthy. Actually...throughout my pregnancy I've had quite a few stressful months.

Only he can control himself, you need to help him realize he's a father && if he wants to be there to see his son/daughter be born...grow up then he needs to learn to let things go otherwise he's not going to be there.

You sound young...so does he. You both sound immature && you two really need to get it straight. You can't freaking think of yourselves anymore. It's about that baby.

&& there is no way his hands are considered lethal unless he has been through military training or high developed martial arts. Which now knowing your age, he can't have.

What? Cyber school? Is that 'home school'? Anyway why are a 15 year old boy's hands considered a weapon? Im confused. Adoption sounds like a good option for yall.

You need to get far away from him.

You can raise a child alone I did with nothing.

But it was either I stay and he kills me.

Or I go and be safe, And I loved him.

You need some Counseling to help you.

If you stay you are risking the life of the unborn child

and your self.

Be careful

i don't think that the stress alone will kill your baby, but i think that you might need to talk to him and see if you guys can come to some kind of agreement on him not fighting with you or anyone else. especially you though. it might be best to talk to him before school starts back up and see where it goes from there. if you feel like he could be endangering your life or your baby's life then you need to get away from him all together.

You need to worry about your baby and not about your boyfriend.

Tell him that if he cared about you or your guys' baby then he would control himself.

Get him to anger management classes... That should help him

Well 1st of all u should of dumped him a long time ago hunny : P so u dont have to stress u or the baby out. Its all bad for your health and u seem like a sweet girl that doesnt deserve sh*t like this. EXCUSE MY SAILOR MOUTH...