Why is it in our marriage sex seems to be the last thing on our minds? Weve been married for 9 years!?

After nine years you might just have to spice things up a little. Its just life gets in the way and one of you have simply forgotten how much you both enjoyed yourselves before wedlock.

I know it sounds funny but if one of you are busy and have the disposable income try making date nights that are added to your already one a week. It might take a while to build up that lost spark and spontaneity together as it sounds like its a routine now.

Go out on the town and flirt and treat each other the way you did in the good old days and stay in a hotel to change the mood and scenery.

Good Luck

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I have been married 8 years, and the same thing happened to us.Everyday life just gets in the way I guess. Just put in a conscious effort to have sex. Flirt with each other, text each other things like I love you, and I want you. things like that. Whatever you used to say when you first were married.

She is probably stressed and tired. Think of ways to help her more around the house such as with laundry or putting the kids to bed. Get a bath with candles ready for her would be another idea. For women, romance starts before you get into the bedroom. Relieve stress=more sex!

Hahaha! That's more than us......and we've been married for 14 years!! Have a talk about it (in the living room, NOT in the bedroom) and try to come to a compromise.

I take a pill for depr, and it has zapped my sex drive. My husband is a compulsive, self-driven man. He works until he is completely exhaused. I've never seen anyone like him--falls asleep in 2 to 5 minutes!

And...we have an 18yo son on the other side wall :(.

TX Mom

Have kids? Jobs? There's your problem =P Gotta reprioritize things

I suggest sex toys and losing about 40lbs. If the spark has gone out, you might be sitting on it.

Try popping gum during foreplay.

You have both become unnattracted to each other, just like magnets that lose their magnetism. And also, she is probably sleeping with other guys.