What do I do about my childrens father?

first you need a good lawyer then the court date. But have you been in contact with his family. Do they know how he is treating there grand children. If he were my son all hell would break loose if you called me with something like this.You need to let the judge know about every thing he is doing and not doing.The judge will step in and be his dad if is own dad will not step in. They will ream him a new -you know what. I have 2 sons and three step daughter.It is beyound me how drugs and booze mess up good people. That is what is going on with him. I would not let him see the children anymore untill you get a hearing. explain to the judge/lawyer you fear for the children around him. Not because he would hurt them but because of the company and quality of living. Like the moran who got stuck in the snow a couple of days ago. Let his 12 yr old son and 11 yr old daughter with a coat,boots and pajama bottoms walk 10 miles in 27* weather and drifting snow and when he got the car unstuck with the help of his cousin who was with then for the ride to his ex wife home to take the children there christmas day they drove back home the other way. The little girl passed away in the snow. This is the kind of person you are talking about. STUPID man. Dunp the bozo move away and protect your children at all costs. Don't let them know he is comming over until he shows up at the door. Keep all contact with him too the childrens well being not your personal life. Get to court ASAP. they will straighten him out. Father of 5 but lost one 01-02-08 miss him every day.

The only father that was mentioned was Shannon's dad, in interview he didn't seem to bothered about how his child was bought up and by whom. The other fathers may care even less, any descent father would be very concerned about a mother who has children by many different blokes. It seems all too common place that people don't take precautions or maybe they think they are on a breeding program. It leaves the children of these stupid people in a very bad situation with parents who don't care and just keep churning out babies. Not all single parent or poor families are like the Mathews it gives families on estates, myself included, a very bad name Andy

$25.00 a week you are a very generous person. His behavior is not ok. You sound like a very, very good mother. You have the insight of a person who is well educated and gets how life is supposed to be. I have a question for you what were you doing with this Joker in the first place? The courts will make him pay a whole lot more than $25.00 a week. Please be careful there are a whole lot of people out there who after court go nuts and feel that they have been wronged or cheated and become very angry. When my X girlfriend were together she had two children but she left the house and he had custody she was paying $250.00 a week in child support. But she fed the kids clothed the kids. Payed for all of the doctor bills and he bought himself a whole lot of nice things. I wanted nothing more than to KICK HIS ***! But we broke up and she now has custody of her children because he like to hit there son. I would hire a private EYE and have him fallowed. So you have definite proof that he is an unfit father. And keep a journal of when he calls and when he doesn't pick the children up when he says he will. And get your children into therapy as soon as you can. It will help. Stay safe and I pray it all work out for you.

Uncle Rob

Does he know how upset he's making his son by acting like this? It's not fair for your boys, and its not fair for the baby you're carrying, since you've been under so much stress because of him lately. You need to talk to him, and tell him you're filing child support, because you're not happy about how he's not taking care of his children. I mean, getting a 6 year old's hopes up and then just not showing up at all?!? WTF! It's ridiculous he forgot his son's birthday. My boyfriend would never, ever get away with that. You two need to have a seriouss talk. One of my uncles has three children, no job, and refuses to get an DNA test on a baby he thinks isnt his. He owes $12,000 in child support. I'm positive he'll be going to jail soon. I mean, i know you're not with your's baby's father anymore, but do you really want him to go to jail? Because when your child is asking, "Where's Daddy?", do you really want to tell him he's in jail for not paying child support?

Good luck & Best wishes.

Happy late birthday to your son first of all. And that's really sad that he can't remember his own child's b-day. I'm sorry for you and your son. Your doing the right thing. He should only visit your children not keep them. If he can't remember the kid's b-day, he'll probably forget something else important. The only advice I can give is only let him come to your house to visit the child. Don't let him take your child to his house unless you go with him. Overall, you're making good choices. Good luck at court! Have a great New Year :)

Since you know that their father may or may not come get them, don't tell them that their father may come get them today. Have them ready just in case he shows up. By not telling them they won't be expecting him and won't be hurt when he doesn't show up.

Does he know how upset his boys are? Next time he tells you he will be there at such & such time to see them/take them out, I wouldn't say anything to your kids until he pulls into the driveway. That way they won't be disappointed when/if he doesn't show.