If I've only been in one serious long relationship, why can't I decide if I want to be with him? ?

It would take a strong person to leave given the situation and since your already pondering the idea I think deep down you know that doing so would be best not only for you, but for your guy as well. Talk to him and let him know how your feeling. If theres a chance that you could be happier with someone else than dont beat a dead horse and continue a relationship that has nothing left in store. Be honest with him and yourself, follow your heart and you'll know what to do.

Remember what brought the two of you together in the first place. People grow and sometimes go in different directions. Commitment is just that being committed to the relationship and all that it is. The good, the bad and the ugly. The grass is not always greener on the other side and do know that relationships take a lot of work. I can get a long with anyone who is kind as I do not sweat the small stuff. Sometimes couples neglect each other and get caught up int he idea of a relationship and forget that it is like relations on a ship- the sailing can be as smooth or as rough as the two want to make it.

Just know that relationships take work, respect each other and remember that there is a lot of DNA going around that people are exchanging and sooner or later its going ot come to ahead.

I know I would hate for my BBF to be with me and not respect me and have passion.

GE just be kind to each other and perhaps the spark that you had in the beginning will reignite-

My best wishes to you and yours

Then don't marry but you two should be together for your children's sake. They need a mother and father.

If that is truely how you feel, then it is probably best for everyone involved that you end the relationship and move on.

Fair warning though, eventually ALL relationship get into a mundane groove. People become comfortable with one another and life isn't always as exciting as we would hope it to be.