Husband works 6 days and was hired for 4!?

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Okay, here's the problem, my husband is a consultant, usually very well paid. He is a retired chef, and is great at what he does. He was hired for 4 days a week, as the new start up place couldn't afford more. I respect his dedication, and his work ethics, but find myself resenting all the hours spent away from home with no pay!
 No, he is not cheating, he is a very good honest man..he is working.
 His employers are a small group of investors, and they all are working at making the business a go. I can usually get over things like this and if he was actually getting paid for doing things he was not hired to do, I wouldn't have a complaint, but watching him come home tired, and not  getting to go out or go shopping because he is giving his all to people who don't properly compensate him is getting the better of me!
 Any Ideas? I am feeling pretty left out of his life, and feel that I am the last on the list! I know he works hard to take care of our home, animals and of course me-how can I stop resenting these people and feel they are cheating him??

Prophet 1102 · Accepted Answer

Several things can be going on:

1. He's part of something new and is a significant provider to making the place work
2. He's been promised that all of his hardwork will be repaid sometime in the future
3. He feel's trapped into a committment that he doesn't know how to get out of
4. He's gaining experience that he can use elsewhere even if this doesn't work out

Talk to him and get his take on what's happening and what's his vision of the future/expectations.

Anonymous · Answer

Your actually resenting the wrong people.  It's your husband who you should be resenting.  If he has been screwed before why do it again?  I hope he was smart enough to get a written contract that he will be compensated for all of the work he is doing.  Makes no sense he is assisting with the start up and he is not going to be part of the profits.

physicist · Answer

Get your own life.  You can go out and have your own friends and go shopping while he is working.  You could help take care of the chores that he does so that when he is home he can spend time with you instead of doing more work.

Going the extra mile to do a professional job and getting reccomendations and a positive reputation is more valuable in a lot of cases than a few extra dollars.

redenz40 · Answer

You do need to be happy at lease he is bring home a check. Have you ever thought that maybe the investors do appreciate him and when this business takes off that they won't compensate him.

Anonymous · Answer

it may be he just really misses the action of a chef.f he loves what he does let him, just try and find a happy medium

Anonymous · Answer

talk to him and tell him how u feel.

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