How do you motivate a 33 yr. old to get a job and stop using drugs?

I agree with the other answer that the boy (hmmm... man!) should be put into a drug rehab first thing and then while there, he can get a full psychiatric evaluation. Second, the parents are enablers. They need to stop! If he is still living at home, why should he move out and get a job? He knows where the easy life is! Because they pay the bills, he can use his money for drugs. He doesn't have to make a choice. If he has a mental disability, he surely has the means and wherewithall to get money to buy drugs even if he's stealing it; how mentalily disabled is that? He knows exactly what he is doing. If he is smart enough to do that, he can surely get a job. He is using and abusing my tax dollars if he is on social security and I resent that. If and only if after another psychiatric evaluation is done and he is deemed disabled, will I buy into that one.

But if I were his parent, I think I'd put the skids to finanical and basic needs assistance. I'd have to give him the ultimatum: Get out and grow up! But remember, they raised him and now they can't get rid of him as long as they continue their behavior.

manual labour in a good town, he needs to get out of his enviroment. What can you motivate him with? well deception would be the ticket but he might just end up bitter after that. You could maybe make his life a fair bit worse so that he wants to leave town...and you happen to offer a way for him to get away.

A lot of drug users feel hopeless, I was a habitual user, gave up when my parents offered to send me to rehab (well a private hospital, there for 6 months) it only some what helped me. What really motivated me was my current girl friend.

Life has to have meaning if you want to achieve things, help him find his meaning

Get him to a residential drug treatment center as soon as possible. Most users want the help deep inside, but are scared of what will happen to them and/or don't know how to change themselves. It's easy enough for a non-user to say to him "stop doing the drugs" but with most substances, there is both a physical and psychological addiction that is too great to fix by themselves. A residential center would keep him away from the drugs and the "losers" who are using them with him, and has a higher chance of success than trying to treat this without professional help.

Do you know what his "so called" mental condition is? If it is real, he may be unable to sustain a job. You can't make him do anything. The choices he makes are his. While it would be nice if we could help out family and friends and actually have them listen to us, it just doesn't go that way with most people. Take care and God Bless

okay so ive been in your situation before. i would have never thought my brother would do that either. but his girlfriend had told me a while back and i was stuck in your position. but honestly i thought about it over and over and it came down too that id rather have my brother be mad at me or not trust me then have a chance to save his future and have a chance to fix it now and so i told my parents and if he knew i was the one who told my parents im sure he'd be thanking me now. and so i personally think you should tell your parents you can even ask them too not mention that you said it thats what i did. this could be a big mistake for the future so sav

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