mixed feelings....................................?????????????

There is no how you should feel. You will feel how you feel and that is just how it is. My father remarried and there are times when I still look at my step-mother and hate her guts. She is one of the most self-centered women I have met and it shows a lot of the time. She is also one of those that just adores putting out double standards, it is ok for me to interrupt you but not for you to do it to me. All that said we get along fine. Yeah sometimes she does piss me off but that is what even your parents do sometimes. If she had never met and married my father I would have never been introduced to some of the incredible people I know now including my great step-sister. My step-sister and I are extremely close now.

So my advice to you is, take it as it comes and try to continue to look at the positive points instead of concentrating on the negative all the time. It is still ok to feel pissed about it sometimes but try not to let that emotion ruin your chances of having a good relationship with your mom, your step-dad, or his kids. You might be surprised how well things turn out.

It is what you make of it. If you want this to be a happy thing, then feel happy about it. If your mother is happy, be happy for her, since she probably went through hell trying to make this decision and get everything to work out between her and the new guy coming into your life. She had a lot of decision making to do, and you should be thankful that she did most, if not all, with your best interests and needs at heart.

Well, as long as your mom is happy, you should let them be happy. My dad is with a woman that we really dont like each other, but my dad is happy and thats all thats important to me. I have to deal with her very snoopyness, sneakyness, and her son who is very snoopy like her. Shes stolen from me, they use my bathroom and leave it gross, and all but i cant complain. My dads happy. Just let them be, but if hes an abusive (physically, verbally, etc.) to her or anyone else, talk to her.

There are pros and cons to everything. If it were me, I would be happy for my mom. But I understand the mixed feelings. New stepchildren feel like this all of the time.

Yes its bad. But what to do?

Ok, Make him understand through your mom in a nice harmless way asap, otherwise later they will be used for it and you too.So act fast without furious.

Is there any other way? Try.