I'm getting married and none of my bridesmaids or MOH live in town. Is it wrong to plan my own shower?

I had to do the same thing. My M-O-H lived 9 hours away and was not the best M-O-H, she didnt' want to help with anything. So I picked a date that I knew she could come home for and that was it.

I planned the Shower & Bach party the same weekend. That was a mistake, if you do that, make sure you plan the shower the day before the bach party, I did it the opposite and the shower wasn't any fun because we were all hung over.

YOU, the Bride should not in any way shape or form manage or control or participate in the planning of your bridal shower or bachelorette party.

Neither the Bride nor the Bride's Mother nor the Groom's Mother nor the sister of the Bride or Groom should host (plan, organize, and pay for) the bridal shower. It is inappropriate and a form of solicitation. It's OK for an aunt or a cousin or a coworker or a close friend to host the shower but it is not OK for the Bride or her immediate family to host the shower.

Take a giant step back. There are many things that you can do to prepare for your wedding BUT managing the bridal shower or planning the bachelorette party should not be on your "to do" list.

Please consider buying and reading a wedding etiquette book.

Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant

I think you should talk to your sister and ask her what she thinks. You shouldnt have to plan your own parties! Since you already mentioned it to your mom maybe she can put a bug in your sisters ear about the dates and throwing the parties. That way your not really saying anything and you dont feel guilty or greedy. My mom threw my shower. My cousin who was my MOH threw my bach party. They were both great. Maybe they could plan a weekend trip like a girls weekend since everyone lives out of town.

With school you have a right to pick the date, but let them do all of the planning.

My sister-in-law planned my shower while I was in school, she asked me for good dates which I gave, but then one of my profs assigned a paper due the Tuesday after the shower. All I could think of during the whole shower was I have to get home and finish my paper. It was really bad. I felt bad for my SIL, she went through all of this trouble to plan a party for me and I didn't even want to be there.

Plan the party for the weekend before spring break, no prof will spring a paper on you then.

Yes you are. You are telling everyone that you want to get stuff before the wedding and will make sure of it by throwing your own shower. What if they do not want to go out with you for a bach party?

What if they were planning one and wanted to surprise you? Maybe your mom is in on it.

Let it alone. You are acting greedy.

on your case, i might tell the two certainly one of them which you and your fiance have had a metamorphosis of plans. tell them without delay out which you're no longer to any extent further having any wedding ceremony celebration in any respect. interior the case of the bridesmaid that would not %. up --- leave a message that it extremely is significant call you and an digital mail additionally. If she would not then skip returned and leave her a message which you desperate on no wedding ceremony celebration (additionally positioned it in an digital mail). basically observe it is nice to have somebody to sign your marriage certificates (2 witnesses). So come to a determination who which would be - you have your mothers and dads if no MOH or terrific guy.

I think that picking the dates is fine. If your mom is so opposed to it then why hasn't she taken the roll of helping plan it with your sister? My bridesmaids were all out of town so I just didn't have one. I didn't need it.

Oh Yeah. If people want to throw you a shower and/or bachelorette party, they will let you know. Back off.

Yes. If no one offers to throw you a shower, you don't get one. I know it sucks, but throwing your own party to get gifts is a big faux paux, and honestly makes you look greedy.

yes it is just not done