Is he cheating or am I being paranoid?

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You are probably being a little paranoid but you never know cause they are guys. This may sound corny but ask him; sit down and talk to him or ask friends around you or a counsellor. Although he may have just decided to start wearing cologne and he might have busy shifts especially at this time of the year. Communication is the best for a relationship to work so if he doesn't answer any of your questions you might have to take it a little further and more seriously and get some help from someone. Look for signs... like if he doesn't or does answer you then look to see if he is lying like body or eye movements e.g. if they're not looking at you etc. Hope it all goes well.

Yeah, I agree, he's most likely cheating. I know it will be super painful but you need to end it and it wouldn't hurt to get tested for STDs. It sounds like you are living together and that will make everything 10 times more difficult but you deserve to be with someone who doesn't sneak around on you. Two and a half years is a good run and it is hard to be with someone that long at 22 so I would consider it a learning experience and move on the best you can. Don't blame yourself for what a jerk he turned out to be and think about how much fun it will be to be single after being in a relationship for so long! I am sorry this happened to you, I'm in a two and a half year relationship and 22, and I wish you the best of luck and the courage to stand up to him and let him know he can't cheat on you like that!

I think he's just bored hun I don't know him so i can't say anything for sure but I always dress myself up and put on my perfume when i want to feel good about myself.Most guys would lie about porn if they usually get the third degree about it.It's pictures in a book not women in his bed.If the two of you show signs you are happy to see each other when he gets in from work my guess is you will be back on track.Both of you are bored in him its showing as trying to make himself feel better with friends cologne the bar and porn,and with you its to defend yourself and the neglect you feel by thinking too much and deciding he's bad.The male brain and the females brain cope differently with the same situations.

While those are signs of cheating, it doesn't necessarily mean that he is.

I would either look for more signs or talk to him about it in a non-confrontational way such as, "I know it sounds silly, but it seems like with your lack of interest in sex and you being gone late at night as me worried that you might be cheating." So that way you make it sound like you just need reassurance. Then if he continues with more signs, I'd start to worry and maybe become a little more confrontational with it, or end it since you can't trust him.

First to answer the question, yes guys can hang out that late.

The rest of the signs may or may not indicate the fact of the cheating. All it takes to find out is just looking in the eyes and asking a serious question. That's the best you can do.

Most likely. I'm a 22 year old guy and occasionally I do hang out with my friends that late. But with the actions that he's taking in dealing with you are very odd.

You're going to have to call him out on things changing or catch him in the act. He may get aggravated or mad about it but that may prove even more that he's cheating. There's no reason to get upset unless he's doing something wrong and has a guilty conscience.

i think these are all signs of cheating..

does he take showers as soon as he gets home?

or take longer to do things than it really should? Like if he runs out and should only be gone an hour..he is gone for 3?

Maybe you are being paranoid..but based on what your telling me he sounds sketchy.

I have been cheated on by 3 of my 4 bf's...2 of the 3 i had a feeling they were cheating on me..and i think when you have a feeling..you're usually right.

Stay strong. <3

Anyways, I hope I am wrong..and he is not cheating.

My boyfriend did the same things. the EXACT same things.

We broke up. turned out he was cheating. I only found out because I saw he called an STD clinic 2 days after I left him. Pretty F**ked up huh??

Well, it has messed me up. I am furious. I wished I paid attention sooner. I just loved him and gave him "his own space" and trusted him.

I think you should follow your instincts. They're usually right.

Confront him.

See how he reacts.

When confront men will always lie, but you can often tell.

I'm really sorry but it sounds like he's either cheating or just checked out of your relationship.

You deserve better.

Confront the guy and leave his a** if he's cheating.

I think its a definite possibility he is cheating on you but a lot of the stuff you said, except for forcing him to have sex, seems a lot like any 21 year old would do, so i would say be aware and keep your eyes open, but don't flip out at him yet.

umm well you can get a direct answer because we don know wat he's really doin but my opinion he is i mean sometime i ***** lik ta show off and smell good in front of his friend for lik a im nice im smooth type thing but most of the time no its not that but if his friends aint never chilled over yo house det late befor he cheatin lost of interest in sex he cheatin and the porn stuff thats a sign of wantin some'm new or different so ita a good chance he is but a very slim chance he aint and i mean slim lik lightning strikin a bee three times mid flight directly on its eyes and the bee survives