I want to start Martial Arts again?

If you think you can not do both maybe you should stick to riding horses since you love it too and are already taking it. Wait a few years before you start martial arts again. I am not trying to be mean but from what you write (and I did take the time to read the whole thing) you need to change your attitude towards martial arts a bit before you start again otherwise you will end up quitting again.

While you think it might be embarrassing not to have a partner and have to work out with the Sensei or a higher ranking helper I can not think of a greater advantage. I purposely would wait and hope I would get the chance to work out with my Sensei / Shifu or another higher ranking person. You learn so much more. They do not goof off when you are supposed to practice, they already know the techniques and can help you when you don't do it right, they don't have anything to prove, they don't have to feel superior or try to make you feel stupid, and on and on. Those are all situations I have run into while partnering up with classmates but never encountered while partnering up with my teachers. Besides having your Sensei as a partner is like getting a private lesson. I cherish my times I got with my Sensei and Shifu. A Sensei or Shifu who will partner up with a student is a humble person and much is said for being lucky enough to have a teacher like that. Until you can understand this and appreciate this you will probably be happier in horse riding. Martial arts is not a social club so don't look for popularity there. When you train hard and achieve a higher rank you will be the helper and have to partner up with the lower ranks to help them on their journey. If you can do this with the same kindness that was shown to you when you were a lower rank that's when you will be truly appreciated.

Well the fact that you are only fourteen but yet have figured this out about yourself and how your shyness held you back and you let it deprive you of something says something I think. What are the chances of you doing both? I ask that because I think you have a dilemma and martial arts would do more for you I think in the long run. At the same time if doing both is not an option then I think you have to choose the one you want. If it is horseback ridding then be happy in that but resolve to work on changing this problem about being so shy so that it does not continue to be a problem for you in the future or affect your life in a negative way. Knowing and acknowledging this about yourself and working on it will help you later in life and will sometimes be needed by you as you grow older and become an adult.

Retired Farrier and horse trainer, 3 black belts and a Kung Fu Master. No reason you can't do both. As long as you are willing to clean the stalls and feed AND you have the discipline to study and practice, you should be able to.

Do this and get paid for your labors will help you become responsible enough to pay for your own martial arts lessons.

You will learn and grow at the same time. A major benefit in the long run.

Go for it.

not to be rude but if you have quit before there always a chance you will again unless you change you attitude and be will to take the time to work hard because its not just as simple as quitting and forgetting everything and if you only 14 (no offence) stay with horse back riding since you like it and have fun and dont need anyone to do anything for you and with marital arts there so much to learn and you will need people to take you to greater hightes and ur only a kid for so long so stay with whatever relaxes you and have fun while you can (since u can always worry about marital arts later)

Go horse-riding when it's not your schedule in MA. But, you're gonna sacrifice a sh!t load of things though. Like socializing in clubs and parties on your free time and stuff like that coz you need to sleep early and you got your week all planned out already.

I would be more considerate of your parents money. How old are you? Maybe consider getting a job and use your own money for your extra curricular activities. You'll learn how to better budget your time, get some responsibility and know the real value of a dollar.

What will you do if you don't have a partner?

What will you do if you don't have any friends in the martial arts class?

What will you do if you don't "catch up"?

Be honest with yourself.

You are obviously starting to think about yourself, your actions, etc. That is excellent. So, I ask you to do more of the same...

um just ask someone to be ur partner. problem solved.

also go more then once a week, go at least 3 times a week