boy friend/best friend conflict?

Sounds like your best friend has a crush on you.

Your boyfriend and best friend see each other as competition.

Stop talking about your best friend around your boyfriend, stop talking about your boyfriend with your best friend

Luck

Your "best friend" most likely has a crush on you. I had the same problem.. my best friend was a guy for years. Actually, he hated everyone that I dated or anyone that I showed remotely any interest in. Why don't you tell your friend either he can have you as a FRIEND and that's it. That's really stupid that he would give YOU an option.. when it seems like you aren't the one causing any problems. Just tell him to stop talking about your boyfriend or just stop talking all together.

Ok, if both of these guys say that they care about you, even if it isn't in a romantic way with your best friend, then they shouldn't make you choose. You're right, a best friend and a boyfriend are two totally different things. Making someone choose is putting them in a horrible position. If you actually care about someone, you shouldn't put emotional stress on them. You should do your best to help them not hurt them.

Making someone choose between two people to the point of losing one of them is emotional abuse. don't put up with it.

I think your best friend may have feelings for you. He seems to care a lot about you and doesn't want to see you get hurt by this guy. In the end if there is nothing you can do, I personally would choose my best friend who is always there for me. Boyfriends come and go from your life, but best freinds are there to stay.

It sounds like either your best friend has very strong feelings towards you, or he's angry that youre with your boyfriend because he really does think he's a bad person or whatevere he says when he talks smack about them.

I'll just tell you this - ....never choose a guy over your best friend. It's much harder to get them back, that it is to get a guy back.

Youre in a quite a messed up situation there.

All I can say is if your best friend is a true best friend, he shouldnt mind your boyfriend and should let you make your own choices. He should respect you, and be there to support all your decisions that you make.

Same goes with your boyfriend. If hes a true boyfriend, and if he truly cares about you, he should trust you to have a best friend, and let you have one. He should be there to support all your decisions too.

You should talk to them, about how you feel and how much you love them both.

Maybe talk to them with both of them there with you.

Good Luck.

honestly.. you just need to somehow get them to resolve things

plus I'm kinda getting the feeling that your best guy friend is jealous

so confront him with that

and i mean he is 2000 miles away so dont let him get in the way of the relationship with you and your bf

I'd say as the girl.. you just need to put your foot down. Tell them that if things dont get better, they will both be losing you as a friend.

I'll say this, never choose a boyfriend over a best friend. Never!

it's your life. do what you want, but take into consideration about what your best friend is saying.

make sure they get along dont leave them they both great solve the problem