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Am I wrong for breaking up w/ boyfriend for messing around?
Well like a year ago, I've cheated on my boyfriend.. I regretted it so much and felt sooooooo bad and I'm not a hoe or a bad person at all, it truly was a mistake that I haven't forgave myself for. He said he forgave me, but still got revenge with two girls that I know. :( It broke my heart into pieces that broke into more pieces. It still hurts now. But I accepted it since I was the one who f*cked up things in the first place. Ok well something else happened when me and him broke up before between me and this dude under peer pressure. People found out, but the escalated it into something worse. Anywho, my boyfriend didn't want people to know that he took me back cause he said was embarrassed.. but I'm like wtf? We been doing stuff, but you don't want people to know. Well anyways, I found out that he is messing around again.. :( He is trying to hide it but I know the truth. I just wanted him to admit it. But since he lied, I broke up with him.. But am I wrong for being mad? Since I am the one who f*cked up to begin with? I feel like maybe I deserve all of this since I did him wrong in the first place.. but at the same time, I do want to be happy. I just don't know how.
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- daveLv 71 decade agoFavorite Answer
You've both been messing around with other people..it's pretty clear you're not that bothered about each other otherwise you really wouldn't.
Split for good and find someone who you really like....such cheating/splitting up etc is just not normal in a relationship and it's not as if you'll really be able to trust each other again.
- 1 decade ago
No. You are not wrong for being upset that he cheated. Yes you cheated first but he forgave you right? A lot of people in relationships don't understand that if you forgive someone for something it also means forget ya know? Once he forgave you, the two of you were suppose to start from a clean slate. You are feeling like it's all your fault because of your guilt. He used your guilt against you to make you feel bad for what he did wrong and yes he is very wrong for cheating on you. If he didn't want to forgive AND forget ten all he had to do was simply break things off with you. To cheat on you to get back at you is a very childish move. The best thing for you to do is to accept what you can't change and move on to someone who is mature enough to handle a relationship with you. His "male ego" was hurt when you cheated on him so he feels the need to even the score to hurt you just as bad as you hurt him-CHILDISH. Move on to someone else because obviously you are mature enough to acknowledge the fact that what you did was wrong and admit it. Move on to someone who is mature enough that has the same mind as you. Good luck sweety!
- Anonymous1 decade ago
No I would do the same thing. Whether or not you started the whole mess, a guy who cheats on you is just going to hurt. Just move on and learn from your mistake.
