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Any advice for a shy girl?

I thought I could attract some guy just by my looks, but it seems to me that the loud girl in class gets most of the attention.

I don't mean to sound conceited, but I don't think I look all that bad...

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And I'm not rude or obnoxious, I smile at everyone I pass (if we make eye contact) but I'm unbelievably shy if I'm not behind a computer.

It's not like I don't have any friends, but I don't have a lot. And I've been single for quite awhile, and I've been missing that feeling of being with someone.

Any advice?

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    You could start with getting the bull ring out of your nose. You may attract the other side that thinks stuff like that looks absolutely retarded on a person

  • 1 decade ago

    It's pretty much impossible to get a guy if you're super shy like you've described, unless the guy is also unbelievably shy

    i guess here's the difference- some guys go for shy girls, not the loud obnoxious types

    BUT if you're really quiet then you might seem boring, concieted or uptight, it's stupid but that's what some people assume :|

    if you engage in conversations with the guys, all is good. just don't be completely silent cause it makes guys feel uncomfertable if they have to make the conversation every time, and that's a turn-off.

    and most guys dont go for the loud obnoxious types anyway! having confidence is different from being egoistical. have confidence in YOURSELF, then you won't feel so awkward around guys!

    smiling at people make you seem pleasent so its a good start :)

    but dont be overly-polite and 'nice', be friendly and casual.

  • 1 decade ago

    First you should take out the nose ring cause that can be kinda unattractive to some guys. Second, change you hairstyle; try having long hair cause i bet you would look attractive mixed in with your shy personality. If you think fixing long hair is a hassle then ask some of your lady friends and i guarantee they will (should) help you. Next, no piercings except for the ear would be good.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    im stupidly shy too and alcohol and yh bein behind a computer are my two saviours!! I find that your only real hope (and it's perfectly obtainable) is to find a guy that interests you, deeeep breaths, try and talk to him, as best you can make yourself appear as sweet and fun as possible and honestly if he takes the time to get to know you, enough time passes for you to come out of your shell and he's still around then you can fall into the sweetest, deepest, most meaningful relationship. at your own pace, naturally. Obviously if this doesnt work out and the person sods of then honestly he wasnt worth your time, if their too impatient to get to know the real you, maybe he isnt even really lookin for a relationship and you just got your way out of a shallow relationship or being used. In this way try and think of your shyness as a gd thing :) I know its hard and horrible and can feel like its gna take forever to get anywhere but try and get close to a few people in your own way and your own time. the person who's still around at the end and wants to spend time with you, is a special person indeed and you will be very special to them :) good luck xx

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    First of all, dont try to rush her into anything, because that could scare her off. If you suddenly start telling her shes beautiful and proclaiming your undying love she wont know what to say back, and it could get awkward. But dont be too creeper or secret admirer-er about it either (there was this boy who would leave me notes in my locker all the time and he would whisper stuff to me in my ear.. it was just weird). Just talk to her. Sometimes you have to be her best friend before you can be her boyfriend, especially if shes shy and has never had a boyfriend before.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    1. Take that ring out of your nose.

    2. It's really not difficult to be loud in class, I used to be one of the shyest/quietist people around, now i'm just like everyone else. Do something funny that gets you sent out of the class, so the whole class laugh, that could attract the attention of some of the lads. ;)

    3. Try making some more friends, in gym class/PE lessons, ask if you can partner up with someone you don't know that well, they might turn out to be quite nice and friendly, they might know a boy that you quite like, and they might enable you to get closer to them?

    4. I know I've already said something similar to this, but boys seem to like it when you make them laugh, get some good jokes or do something stupid that makes them laugh.

    Hope I helped, Good Luck! :)

    Source(s): Personal Experience
  • 1 decade ago

    Try reaching out to people, and try new things,or join school orgs that you think would help you be more outgoing. Be friends with guys. Find out what interests them and join in in their conversations. You can attract a guy without being obnoxious nor loud. You just have to have a little faith in yourself and confidence! :)

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Hey your very good looking now be a little more sociable, not like that girl in your class but be a little agressive tell a guy "whats up handsome" he'll be whaaaaaaat this chick is like soooooo coool lmao just be a little out there guys will check you out like crazy

  • 1 decade ago

    im not trying to be mean i say this in a nice way... get rid of the nose piercing and grow your hair. i think u would look super cute if u did tht n then like got spider bites or something.(: but well yeah and if your shy just try to get out of your comfort zone slowley and safe and your shyness should be gone in no time! :D hope i helped

    Source(s): i read the 7 habits of highly effective teens...I go by it (or try too!)
  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    yup you look alright to me, of course your piercing says "leave me alone" but you probably know that anyway.

    the loud girls all end up with 3 kids by 3 men by the time they are 30 so ignore their example.

    be patient with yourself and grow your confidence slowly over time.

    being singles not so bad, in fact you will learn much more about yourself by being single than you ever will from dating a long succession of losers.

    I'd ask you out if I was younger!

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