How to find a kid-friendly cat?

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Thank you all for advice on going to a shelter and which breeds to consider.

However, I'm "sickened" by an assumption that my child is abusing my cat (yes this is aimed at you Meowy Christmas not MomTo3 you were reasonable and kind). My "beastly" child is currently three months old. He's still learning to use his hands, and may someday get the opportunity to touch the soft fur of the kitty. It will be much easier for everyone if the cat is actually enjoying the dexterity of young toddler hands instead of being scared away into the corner.

It's interesting that most dogs have no problem with a hardy pat on the belly and really seem to enjoy it. For some reason, the same size cat typically finds a hardy pat scary. I think it has a lot to do with the demeanor of the cat rather than physical pain it is feeling. My former cat had no problem with what scares other cats. In fact it loved the attention. Is that a bad thing?

The vet believed that the cat died of some sort of liver problems. I bet the baby found a way to destroy the cat's liver just for a good laugh. He's always waking up at night..scheming on his next plot and trying to tire us out. I'm going to do something about this today. He is not the little angel I once thought. No more driving privileges until he's one year old. I hear it can take as long as nine years for a boy to learn to behave.

It was so ignorant and selfish of me to not seek your permission when we got our first cat. I had no idea that the cats had a spokesperson that could read the mind of every cat. Will you let me know when it's okay to get another cat? Because having a cat is such an enormous responsibility compared to having a child and I don't want to take it lightly. The baby may kill again!!!

Danielle:

I think you're right. Can you help me train my three-month-old infant on becoming cat-wise? I didn't see it this whole time. They all grow up so fast. He has been abusing our cat and we didn't even notice! We have been so busy feeding him and changing his diapers every three hours that we neglected to notice his behavioral issues. Just because he can't even rollover doesn't make him innocent.

It's all coming together. That must have been why the other cat died. It would always cuddle up to me and purr as I feed our baby. I bet the moment my back was turned to get another bottle, the baby would smack the daylights out of the cat. I honestly thought the baby could barely grasp his toys, thank you for setting me straight!

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