Dating Tips? Just got out of a 1 year relationship..?

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Well here is my situation.. I feel like I'm caught in a little catch-22.
I had just recently gotten out of a 1 year relationship about 3 months ago. I'm still in love with the girl, I've tried a lot to patch things over, nearly everything.. but she insists that it's over and there is nothing to work out. She started dating someone else a few weeks after me, I came to find out the new guy was one reason we had broken up.. She had been talking to him the last couple of months we were together behind my back. This really isn't my problem though.. although I still have feelings for her I'm at terms to accepting it and am ready to move on. My previous girlfriends all share something in common, I have met them all through friends of friends, or I had worked with them. Which is kind of where I'm in a bind. The current place I work at, I don't have any co-workers I'm interested in.. And most of my friends are also my ex-girlfriends friends. So naturally I haven't been hanging out with most of them to avoid running into my ex; we also had a pretty bad breakup so it's kind of awkward being around them. I have thought about going to bars, but I'm not much of a drinker. Likewise, I think its nearly impossible to meet "the love of your life" at a bar. Since I'm not much of a drinker, I don't want to meet a girl that likes to drink.. I've thought about doing this "online dating" thing but it's not really for me.. I've looked at Plentyoffish and Okcupid and again, it's not really for me.. and I haven't exactly found what I'm looking for. I'm a firm believer in that "You meet someone when your not looking for them", but as of now I've been down in the dumps trying to get over my ex, and it's pretty difficult being alone and not having someone else to preoccupy my time. I'm not the type of guy that HAS to constantly be in a relationship, but the companionship makes me feel a lot better then being alone all the time. So I guess my question is, what's a good way to find someone who's in the same boat as me? Again I'm not into the online dating scene.. some of the girls I have talked too seem to have some problems, that's probably why the resorted to trying to date online.. And I don't want to "fall in love" with someone at a bar..

Qocial Lover · Accepted Answer

Be open minded. People have gotten uglier since a year ago.

Anonymous · Answer

Within the first line you say i'm still in love with the girl. So that says everything right there that you are not ready to be "falling in love" with anyone right now. Even though you are not much of a drinker you need to hangout with your friends..your guy friends only.. Go to bars or parties or where ever just have fun dont expect to meet anyone, and i'm telling you someone is going to come along, they always do. But first you need to kind of get over this girl and then you will be ready to meet someone. But if your not over her your never going to find someone that will be good enough for you becuase you will always be thinking about her.

Ethereal · Answer

Ahh man.. The moment of truth.. Hope your ready because your going to need a drink for this one. And better rate me best answer to lol.. On with your problem.. Im skipping down to the point where you say your a firm believer in meeting the love of your life when your not watching. This is what you do.. Get friends together and go have fun.. goto the movies.. play airsoft.. paintball.. video games.. go bowling.. goto the bar and play pool without having to drink.. and honestly the bar thing..? get the hell over that kid girls will drink everyonce in their lifetime.. so tuff **** get used to it. And honestly the bar is where you lay down your game plan. The bar is a perfect place to help you attract women and hone your skills to better your relationships in the future with whomever you may meet. And man.. You can meet the love of your life.. right out side your door.. yes thats right.. In the most unexpected places.. Don't drain all your energy on the bar.. because you sound as if thats the only place you go to find women.. If you want the love of your life.. lean back and chill.. go do stuff with friends.. don't think about it because once you don't think about it is when the love comes knocking on your doorstep. Good luck with this.. because your not the only person that has this problem and these tips go out to everyone else that needs help getting over their past relationship.

? · Answer

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Guider · Answer

I think you will have to be fine with everyone, even those who may try to snub you for a while.

Anonymous · Answer

Move on
There more fish in the sea

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