My boyfriend keeps blowing hot & cold......?

My advice is to back off and let him be. He doesn't seem to know what he wants. To be honest, you're too good for him and a man like that will only ruin your life. You've managed all these years without him. A man who is physically abusive is no good to any woman. Find someone who is worthy of you.

Your a few fries short of a happy meal or very desperate or maybe both.

This guy is using you for sex(can I get a duh huh here?) and may have another prospect for a g/f and place to live.

Chances are he is STILL doing drugs and knows he will not be able to be as free with his substance abuse around you and the kid.You need to stop seeing him, get yourself in church and straighten your life up.Hasn't your kids suffered enough bull crap?

Try finding a decent guy who is NOT a substance abuser and has not spent time in prison for beating you.There is NO WAY I would let this man move in and if he does,I hope to GOD someone calls cps and has the kids rescued.Your kids have suffered due to your choices and will again if you let him move in.

boyfriend blowing hot cold

People who do drugs in an early age or any age at that, don't mature as they should. Even if he has responsibility's. He will neglect you and the children to be with his friends and get high. Don't try to compete with the drugs, you will lose every time. How do I know this? There are two reasons; first, I was like that too, and we had three boys. Although I kept a roof over their heads and sometimes paid the bills, I Still went out with my friends and partied almost every day or night or both. I love my boys and my wife but the drugs took over my life and I had a hard time getting away from them. I wanted to stop, but I couldn't, I sought all types of help, but nothing seemed to help. It got to the point that I couldn't drink everyday because my stomach would not allow me to do so, I had very bad stomach pains. I still did drugs and because of my illness, and not being able to drink, I went on to harder drugs, like Coke and heroin. The Second reason is because, I finally got the help that I needed. I got this help at a Christian Church. "The First United Pentecostal Church" and after I completed the course, I still hadn't' stopped. I needed something to mark my sobriety with, a special date. It turned out that my birthday was coming up very soon, so on that day I quit all drugs(smoke, beer, coke etc..). It has now been almost 16 years that I did so, and I have enjoyed life, and my children(which are now in their early 30's and one in mid 20's) I enjoy my grand children and have time to do things I love, like building Hot Rods. I have had several, and after I finish one I turn-around and sell it and start anew. I love it. My boys come to me to help them fix their cars. All this came about only when I stopped. No your boyfriend isn't going to give the necessary attention or to your children. Move on and ask the Lord to help you find someone to help you raise your children. Remember, always put God first, then your spouse, followed by your children and then family. The Lord has someone for everyone, He has someone for you too. One more thing, don't go to bed with them till you are married and you know in your heart that he cares for you and your children. When a man excepts a woman with children, those children are then his responsibility. God Bless You, and I will be praying for you. If you have someone that goes to church, like your mom, or grandmother or neighbor, ask them to pray for you. See if you can go to church with them. Maybe you'll find someone there?

Since you have talked to him about this but he just keeps on doing it plus you don't want to leave him than the only othe thing to do is to put up with it I wouldn't but you must care that less of youself to feel that you should be treated like that life is full of choices make one

you dont want to be with someone like that.. they are never going to change. my sister is going through that same thing. her boyfriend and the father of her child is very abusive to her yet she still keeps on running back to him. its not fair to yourself. do whats best for you and your children and i personally dont think that is being with him will bring any good.

Im sorry for im going to tell you :

1 - you love him till now .

2- this guy will not be good man he detroy him selfe evry day.

3- itis better to escape from his life.

im sorry but i believe in that

Elle,why are you wasting your valuable time on this looser,get on with your life and first of all,get a restraining order on this dangerous person.

Why would you want to be with someone who has substance abuse problems and who has physically abused you?

His behavior is never going to be what you want it to be. And as he said, you are always in his face. Please do you both a favor and let him alone.