I have the job, husband stays home with kids. He is overwhelmed, what can I do?

First of all, get your own place! I've been where you are and Honey, it ain't fun!!!

Can he get a 3rd shift job so that one of you is always there for the kids and you could still afford your own place?

Can you all set some money aside, find a GOOD marriage counselor and go for about 3 to 5 sessions to figure out a game plan that fits your situation?

I agree, this is very hard on a marriage and parents do need to butt out. He could tell them that, but he would need to be very emotionally healthy to do so. If he has no job, his self-esteem may be very low and thus he may lack the fortitude to act in an emotionally healthy way with his parents and to some extent, with you as well.

I hope this helps you. Best wishes. :-)

sorry you not gonna like what i have to say...men are so dang pathetic we women take on jobs cleaning cooking family etc...if he can't do something as simple as watch the children you both had while you make the money then he is a stupid dead beat.tell him to be the man get out and get a job and put a roof over your kids head instead of mooching off your parents.

edit:wow,like we're really gonna help you now after you insulted us..look at what you wrote..if someone else wrote that wouldn't you think the same way and give the same answer? don't tell me you wouldn't..we are just expressing how it seems.

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You have the job and you do all the housework??? That's just wrong. Overwhelmed or not, at some point he needs to kick it into high gear and do his job. He does have a job, he's just not getting paid in cash. (He is, though - a roof over his head and food on his table sounds like a payment....)

There was a time in this country when men took care of their families. Now they are flaccid lumps of dung who sponge off the kindness of others. Do you hear yourself? You live with his parents? He doesn't have a job? Life could not be any easier for him. Help yourself with some work on your own self-esteem.

He should be doing the vast majority of the house work if he's staying at home while you work. Otherwise, what exactly is his contribution? He sounds depressed. Perhaps suggest he go see his doctor.

You need a place of your own !!

Wont his parents help with the children

while he goes to work too ?

That way you could afford your own home .

Let him get a job and you stay at home with the kids. He has issues that you can't fix. He has to want to get his issues straightened out.

Women do it better because they multi-task better than men. There is not much that you can do.

How about getting your own place, for starters?