how to confront a cheating boyfriend?

Just leave him. There is no need for confrontation.

You would be a fool to stay with someone who cheated.

tell him you saw him kissing another girl and go from there. Is this something you feel as though you can work through and forgive him for or does he seem like the type to continue the cheating behavior? Nobody deserves to be lied to and cheated on, in my opinion I would tell him I saw him, dump him and forget about him. If he's ditching you for another girl it doesn't seem as though he has much respect for you and you deserve respect. If you choose to stay with him and are sexually involved I would advise you to ensure he wears protection ALL OF THE TIME. There are so many diseases out there and you are some can stay with you for life, even kill you. However always remember that even with a condom you can still get stds. Think of your health first, not your feelings toward any guy. In my own opinion, confront him and move on..whatever your decision may be, the best of luck to you and remember there are many guys with morals and respect for females, don't sell yourself short and expect someone to change. Only you can make a change in your life!

Hey Girl,

Same thing happened to me.

And you know what he always is running back to me.

Once a cheater always a cheater thats never gonna change.

And you cant put yourself at fault and love cannot over rule cheating.

He needs to learn from his mistake and see what he lossed out on .

But at then it also matters how long you guys been together .

Everyone cheats in their life .

If he's worth the pain he caused then stay with him.

If you feel in your HEART and MIND he's the one give him a second chance.

But make it clear that you deserve to be respected and cared for and what he did was wrong, and if he does something like that again the relationship will not work out

You have to break up with him. For yourself- your own sense of wellbeing and respect. If u get back with him you will always wonder if he is doing it again and that's no way for a relationship to grow. He will do it again. It's a VERY small percentage that cheat once and truely never do it again. He wouldn't hurt you like that-then lie about it if he really loved you. He loves that you love him- but if he truely loved you 100% he wouldn't have done that. You can find someone that really loves you. That tries everyday to do something for you to make you happy- not hurt-that's not love.

Wish u all the best!

Why are you making excuses for his mistakes?! If you were to flirt with other guys how would he react to that problem?! Ask him that question and figure out for yourself what you should do. I mean ask him why he did what he did? Why does he love you? And why should you give him a second chance? Now if he answers those questions with sincerity and love and you feel his apologetic vibe then keep the fellow, but remember once a cheater always a cheater!

"Nikki," you must be very young, if you think this is "cheating." Sorry to put it this way, and please don't be offended, but you're over-reacting.

Honestly, it doesn't sound like you know (yet! -- trust me, you will, someday) what romantic love really is, or what trust or commitment are (by him or by you toward him), etc.

You are probably at the very beginning of your romantic "career." Relax. Don't make a big drama out of a little flirting. You *and he* will be flirting harmlessly all your adult lives, knowing each and every time that it'll come to nothing, it's strictly for fun. This will be true even if you (and he, vice-versa) find the love of your life, and marry him, and stay monogamous and faithful to him till one of you dies. You'll still flirt from time to time, with guys who are not your husband.

FLIRTING IS NOT CHEATING! Flirting is a game, NOT to be taken seriously. It *can* lead to "cheating," of course, but in adult life, flirting, all by itself, almost never does. And in the lives of adults, believe me, "love" and "cheating" are very, very real, and for keeps!

The way you handle it next is to pull your bf aside to a quiet place, and tell him gently but frankly that his flirting with others makes you uncomfortable, and would he please not ever tell you about it when he does it, or ever do it when you are present. Or, for that matter, ever do it with someone who's going to tattle on him to you.

If I'm right, and you *are* that young, you might also explain that you haven't got much romantic experience, and you just don't know yet how to handle even mild "competition" for him from other girls, or how to handle your own feelings of jealousy (how to keep them in proportion to an incident).

It's also perfectly OK to admit that, on considering it all, you see that you've over-reacted, and if in future he'll keep any flirting he does with others private, you'll swallow your feelings "next time," and allow yourself a cooling-off period before confronting him about anything hurtful he might have done.

You can't stop your jealous feelings (or any other feelings, for that matter -- ever !), but with some experience, you'll learn how to rein them in to reasonable expressions. Ask him to be patient with you while you figure it out in relation to him; his "patience" can include all that Not-Flirting when and where it would hurt your feelings.

At least he sounds like a frank and honest guy (for telling you, eventually), if just a tiny bit insensitive. So: do you really want to break up with him, or do you want to keep him around? It does sound, at least, like *he's* still on-side with you; so it's your call.

Does this all sound reasonable and/or helpful to you? I hope so.

Good luck!

OMG!! my boyfriend did that twice or more on me i hate myspace for that i found out myself by hacking into his myspace lol.

i gave him another chance i might be stupid but we talked it over it n he did stop flirting with girls.

just tell him how u really feel and if he really loves u to find a way to get ur trust back.

Ive read your answers so far and honestly, VIOLENCE is not the answer. What you need to do is if he is willing and wanting to set things right put him on a probation trial for dating. Watch him closely call him and check what he is doing. Send a friend out to pretend to like and flirt with him. If he flirt back that is one strike. Give him exactly 3 strikes and then. HES OUT! hope that helps.

Too hard to cheat these days. Man you girls are like CSI all into the electronic surveillance. If you don't trust him then move on simple. But if u stay with him don't blame anyone but yourself.

He has not cheated, he has flirted. I think that if he was never caught he might have acted on his intentions. It sounds to me like he does not respect you nor does he value your relationship. If I were you I would take some time to reevaluate the situation, if it is really worth it. He needs to wait and NO ONE CAN TELL you what to do. You have to figure that out for yourself. What does your heart tell you?