love story problem (long story)?

Seems to me like she's not mature enough to treat you the way you will treat her. She's only 17! come on, at that age it's impossible to know exactly what you want in life.

She's using you for the car and if she's out partying EVERY NIGHT like you said then that should be pretty obvious to you that she's not what you need. You seem like a guy who's ready to make some big changes, which I can say im proud of you for, tho I don't know you. lol

Her in the other hand is still confused, don't put too much hope in this relationship...as hard as this is to take. You keep yourself up and keep working towards YOUR goals, not hers.

You shouldn't blame yourself for her smoking habits, she's just being experimental and rebellious. Let her be who she is until she finds herself, because at this point I don't think she has yet.

Worry about yourself and get yourself back into school, find a job and try to get your mind off of her. This is your life hun, you decide what's right for you.

Best wishes.

Alright~

I don't think she loves you as much as you say you love her.

I do not think she is ready AT ALL for a serious relationship. I am also not so sure about you either.

You are both so young- please get a supportive life going for yourself and once that is steady, a relationship may be possible.

Once both of you have endured the toughest part of what each of you are both dealing with, chances are high that you will both look at one another differently and that many things about both of you will most likely have changed.

(Are you a taurus? Not that this could mean anything, yet Taureans usually fall in love and stay loyal and love that person no matter what for as long as they live. It is hard for them to move on, yet once they have to, it's all good and probably worth it. Just so you have an understanding of this. Not everyone believes in horoscopes)

This may not be what you wanted to hear. Yet this is truth. Many things other people will say might be truth as well. It all depends on how you look at it.

Maybe use this time to really follow your mind and heart and think for NOW and soon.

Hope this helps you~

Good Luck

She is probably using you, sorry hun. She is 16, she may be mature because I'm the same age but it may just be cool for her to have an "older bf" you know? About the stop calling me abe thing, are you saying it too much? You may just be a little sensative and thats ok, just achkowledge that you are. Try to be hesitant or distant from her for a while and see how she reacts, that usually is the trick for girls. Honestly though (please don't take offense) She may be kind of spoiled and can't support herself, maybe you deserve someone better anyways.

Sooo.. what what u all think about her and me? it will all work out if its meant to be. Look for signs?

does she love me or is she using me? The only person that knows that is her.

is she ready for a serious relationship?

Maybe in a year, she seems like she is just enjoying the teenager party life type thing and will settle down soon, but don't try to make her grow up just be there for her. Your doing great trying to get a job, staying healthy and working to get your license.

it doesnt seem like she is mature enough yet to handle this kind of serious relationship.

when u left she fell into the same type of hole u fell into when u were her age.

and it sounds like shes using u,if she really cares about her life than she will get a job and not be asking u to pay for HER school and HER car. she may be a good girl,but right now she needs to take care of herself,we cant always save people from themselves no matter how much we love them.and u are young and just starting out too,u should just take care of yourself and enjoy your life and your dreams.good luck

here is what you should do

1. find a part time job

2. go to college, graduate college

3. let her do whatever she wants to do (stop worrying so much about her)

4. spend more time with your family and friends

5. If you do all of the above and still have a lot of free time then join a team (basketball, hocky, football, swimming) or find a hobby

I promise you that if you do all of the above, that by the time you graduate you will be so very happy and pleased with yourself and your life that you will look for me later on in life to thank me... but you will not find me... so if you do decide to take my advice then good luck and your welcome. bye

its sounds as if you can do better, but i understand you think shes beautiful so if you love her that much hold on to her.. if she makes you happy do everything you can to keep your realationship going.

I think she does love you but also she uses you to get what she wants. She can blame stuff on you (like starting smoking - even though it wasnt you fault) and she knows you will buy her a car etc.

They age difference isnt that big and as you's grow up it will become less of an issue.

hunny listen. If she is 17, and goes clubbing, partying, fights and everything. and your 20 and are going somewhere in life and you are mature, you deserve better than her. someone who is more mature and someone who has goals and has a plan in life. Why would you want to be with someone who uses you when she needs you? You dont't deserve that. You should be with someone who is willing to cooperate with you. not someone who strings u along like a toy.

i think shes using you for the car.

if shes really pretty and can get any guy, she probably will

maybe she just thinks your hot and wants sex and money from you (sorry)

if she partys alot. shes not thinking about u, shes thinking about free drinks from guys, and dancing with random hot guys. she is not ready for a serious relationship.

honeslty i think she just wants one night stands (sorry)

but i might be totally wrong...

it sound like she does love you nnd you really love her....im sure she is mature enough for you because girls mature faster than girls anyways plenty of smokers get testy when they don't have a smoke...its okaii just try nnd get her to stop