I need serious help... now?

hi

do you really think it's that complicated? undoubtedly he likes you it's pretty obvious...to me there is something like stopping him from being forward, either he's too shy or he's not sure about how you feel about him or something else ... guys act weird when it comes to expressing some of them have wild time expressing themselves but he couldn't be any more clearer than this...I myself never make the first move so I don't wanna suggest to you to do so but try being more expressive so he wouldn't go for one of those girls who like him...maybe he's waiting for you to give him some hint go ahead do it he likes you i can bet

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Im going to say that number one he is trying to make himself seem more desireable (i.e oh well i have like (insert number here) of girls into me), but you should be flattered because it seems like he likes you. I say go for it do something crazy, hold his hand before he can grab yours, as a guy I remeber how shocking it is when a girl really sweeps you off your feet. All the best

I think that the answer to this question has a lot to do with both of your ages and where you are at in life. The reason that it matters is because some of the awkwardness, hesitancy, or outright fear you feel at the prospect of a relationship may have to do with your personal situation. I must say first off that I am not one who has been through many relationships, but the ones that I have been through have been exceptionally meaningful. They have not panned out, for I am still single, but what I learned from them has been invaluable. I believe that these failures will actually make me a much better husband, mate, and partner. The most important lesson that I have learned from all of the "failures" has been not to rush into anything.

Hormones and biology do enough to push us into making some unwise decisions when it comes to love. Often our infatuation is so overwhelmingly powerful that it makes us give leave of our senses. This is not necessarily a BAD thing, but I would rather have at least one toe on the ground than be full-on "head-over-heels." As I have matured, so has my viewpoint towards relationships. Crushes that I had in high school are definitely different than those that I have now. To be quite honest, as a young (but not terribly young) adult, I am in a better position to pursue a serious relationship now than when I did before. This is probably why my other infatuations fizzled out.

What you are talking about is really apropos to my own situation at the moment, although it is slightly different being male. Currently I am having to deal with a very strong crush that I have had on a woman I have known for about a year. She and I are not exactly in the same social circle; I have only worked with her professionally in work capacities, and even then, only a couple times a month on average. This makes it a bit awkward for me because I want to strike the delicate balance of showing that I am interested in sparking up a relationship, but I do not want to come on too strong. To show you how far out of my social circle she is, I have not really even found out if she is seeing anyone currently.

Because I may end up going through all of the trouble of asking her out only to find she has a boyfriend, I have tried to arrange little things that will tighten that loose social circle between us. I have tried to keep it low-key, not only to preserve my own feelings and save face if she is already "taken", but I do not wish to cause undo uncomfortableness when we work together in the future. In all of these subtle attempts, I think that there are good prospects that she might be into me. However, experience has taught me that some people are so genuinely nice that I can read more into a situation than is actually there. I figure that if I take things slow, I will find out sooner or later what her real feelings are.

The reason I give you my example is to show you that this guesswork is one of the most frustrating, but most exciting parts of a budding relationship. How much easier it would be just to spend a few minutes in someone else's mind to see what he or she was truly thinking! I believe, though, that this realm of the unknown is what gives a couple a motivation to deepen their bond. If they knew exactly what the other was thinking right off the bat, there would be nothing new to discover, no reason to talk and build their relationship, and no reason to really care about the other going forward.

What you are describing is very normal, and is a good thing. Just make sure that you feel ready for a relationship. If you feel deep down that now is not the time, you can spare yourself undo heartache by figuring out the best way to avoid an ill-fated relationship before it happens. If, however, you are ready to get serious, just be patient. It sounds like he would like to pursue a relationship. As you make yourself available to get to know him, things will naturally come together. I would only say, be okay to take things slow. Most of the heartache that I have had when my relationships go south is feeling stupid for allowing myself to jump into something too quickly. The hormones eventually give up their position as main driving force in the relationship, and the more long-lasting and important elements of emotional and intellectual bonding take over. If you do allow for your true emotions and intellect to have a say in the relationship early on, you are more likely to be okay with whatever direction the relationship takes.

Yes, things will probably be a little awkward, but hey – awkward can be new and exciting. Be yourself. It will allow him to be himself. It is hard not to feel that one has to "put on a show" when courting another. One of the biggest reasons I am attracted to the woman I have the crush on is because she is one of the rare people with whom I feel completely comfortable being myself. Because she is genuine, it brings it out in me. Ultimately,