RAMADAN:::: SERIOUS PROBLEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!answer honestly?

Are you the younger sister?

Does she not feel ashamed to be these doing things and then getting told off by a younger girl?

Even more, does she not feel ashamed to be conforming to her friend's ways in spite of it going against Allah (swt) wishes?

I think she needs a wake up call. It almost sounds as if she is in a moment of ecstasy, busy amidst the pandemonium of life. I think *you* should help her, (if you are able) as you must be a similar age to her, thus she will understand you better. Whereas if it was your mother, she would just not listen and feel as if she is being lectured.

My advice - you need to remind her of death. For death is the destroyer of all pleasures. One day, when she is not engrossed in her own life, take her to a cemetery and just walk around. Remind her that these people also lived this life of amusement and now look at them, remind her that this will be you and her one day, buried beneath the soil. Just talk to her seriously, tell her everything and how you feel.

Tell her, yes, it might be fun and perhaps she is not crossing the limits YET but how long will it take to get her knocked up by some strange boy? I don't want to scare you and jump to conclusions, but I can't even begin to describe how many times I have heard this happening to real people in the same situation as your sister.

That car accident she had recently, she could have died just then but no, Allah (swt) gave her another chance at life. Imagine if she had died then, with her imaan that low, Allah (swt) would not have been very pleased with her. It's not too late for her to change, she just needs to have the willpower and the strength and alot of support from you, I also recommend she stays away from these "friends" of hers.

If you find you cannot persuade her by yourself, then definitely tell your mother the real her, she deserves to know. I really hope your sister recovers from this disease, and I call it a disease because it is just that, the only cure for her is to remember her purpose in life - to worship GOD.

I used to be similar to her as well, I had bulimia and several eating disorders, all I cared about was complying with society's view of a "typical teenager." I didn't really care for my education, although I believed in God, I was not exactly a practising Muslim and of course, petty materialistic things always got in my way. When I look back now, I feel literally disgusted and realise how pathetic I was to make the object of my life my appearance and friends and ignore God. Alhamdulilah, Allah (swt) guided me, I can never thank God enough for His guidance, if it wasn't for Him, I would be lost in life.

I chose to tell you an anecdote of my own personal life to show you that it is possible and that it is never too late. There is absolutely no differentiation between your sister and millions of other western teenagers in the world, I am glad that I am not one of them and you should be too.

I hope Allah (swt) guides your sister and gives you the strength to deal with this problem.

Peace :-)

The truth is that history did not do justice to shia and its followers, this ranges from blackmail, killing, bridge of trust and much more. Now that there is a little space for us to practise our belief, the sunni are looking into our activities as something new and try to push us away with bias and hatred. All we want is freedom of full practise of our doctrine which they are not ready to except when it is beyond their control. All we want is let us come back from history and practise the true doctrine of the religion at least the 5 pillars of Islam correctly together. May God give us the ability to close the gap between us.

Brother(or Sister), perhaps your sister is trying to experiment with her young life. Maybe she would like to take a new route in her life. But surely, lying is not the way. She must confront the family about her whereabouts and either where a hijab altogether or not wear hijab. Tell your sister how you fear about her, but tell her that no matter what she says yourself and Allah will understand. When you go for New Years, watch out for her. Tell her no partying and prohibit her and stop her anyway you can from letting her go. Just to spend at least one night as a family again. And then maybe this bird must fly away. Fly somewhere else.

Inshallah, hope it helps :)

i agree with everyone who has answered especially sunni iranian and maryam

maryam's suggestion would help those muslims who aren't so proficient in english so they could also understand the question inshallah

i have tried talking to people, but it has to come from them

just make sure you learn from her mistakes, and tell her to fear Allah more. Also make an appeal to emptiness. Say you know here frivolous behaviour is not bringing her true happiness, and that if she repents to Allah, everything will get better inshallah.

Peace

"Hold to forgiveness, command what is right; but turn away from the ignorant." [7:199]

The best thing to do is make dua bro, that's the only thing you can do. It is up to Allah to guide her;

"It is not on you to guide them, but Allah guides whom He pleases. And whatever of good you spend it is for your own souls. And you should not spend aught but to seek the countenance of Allah. And whatever of good you spend, will be fully credited to you; and you will not be wronged" [2:272]

Just make her aware of what she is doing is very bad, and having boyfriends is zina and it could badly affect her future. I know how hard it is to see the one you love act in unislamic ways, but we are all guilty, some more than others. Just keep asking Allah to guide them and help them. Try and get her some muslim friends perhaps? And I mean some good ones who are practicing. Because hanging around all these non muslims is just fitnah and inappropriate, and muslims should try to avoid that.

Inshallah she will realise her mistakes and turn to repentance.

"Have you then seen him who takes as his god his vain desires, and Allah has allowed him to be astray (with his), knowing (it), and set a seal upon his ear and his heart and caused upon his eyes a veil; who can guide him after (his being allowed to stray by) Allah? Mat! Will you not then reflect?"

Holy Qur'an (45:23)

I know that u love ur sis, and wouldn't want anything bad 2 happen 2 her. For her sake, u need 2 tell ur mom everything u know abt her so that ur mom with the help of ur Dad can reign her & stop trusting her blindly.

Leave her alone,let Allah Swt deal with her.....she knows what she is doing is wrong at least u confronted her.

where is your father??

if i were you i would had told my mother

you are the one who are going to be blamed if something bad happened to her

Make dua for her...

(tip for you) shorten ur Q next time

where is your father??